The art of letting go to live better

Wanting to be in total control of everything is exhausting, don't you think? The reality is that any sense of control we may believe we have is false.

However, forcing events to occur because you feel they should because you think they should because you want them to is simply unhealthy.

Let's face it, you can't control everyone or everything that happens in your life.

To be able to enjoy life again, whether we are in control or not, and subsequently accept what is, it is a behaviour to change.

This is what my body does when I'm afraid of losing control:
My breathing becomes shallow, my heart rate increases, my vision becomes very focused, and my breathing becomes very narrow. My thoughts change subjects and focus quickly switch from the past to the future. My memory, focus, and awareness of the present moment are all very poor.

I am serene and calm when I am letting go. I take a deep breath and focus on the present. I can literally see a larger world because I can clearly see everything around me.

The greatest irony in all of this is that by attempting to exert control, we actually place ourselves in a situation that does not allow for control.

Giving up is the opposite of fighting. However, letting go does not entail giving up the desire; rather, it entails giving up the fight. Stop battling with yourself. Put an end to battling nature and the universe.

Stop fighting reality and pushing it away!

How do we do that if relinquishing control and letting go improves both our feelings and our performance?

Understanding the source of an emotion is one of the best ways to relinquish control. Look for the primary justification for your need to micromanage every aspect of your life.

Is it as a result of your anxiety about the future? Or do you lack self-confidence in your personal or professional relationships?

Give your honest response to these inquiries, and hopefully they will give you new life.

Consider what might have happened if you hadn't intervened before attempting to control a situation.

The desire to control everything is typically motivated by fear. It can be beneficial to be concerned about the future, but you should also maintain a healthy balance.

When you feel like you have to control the situation, consider whether your fear is justified.

Will the future change dramatically and negatively if you let go? If the reply is negative, let him go. Instead of allowing your fears to rule your life, it's time for you to take control of it.

Almost all of us have the opportunity to go for a long walk in nature, practise yoga or meditation for five minutes in the morning or take a long walk.

You'll have more energy to tackle your work if you take the time to enjoy life.

Compare and give up! Narrowing my attention to what other people are doing is one of the best things I've ever done for myself.

People tend to exert control over situations out of fear of what the future may hold or perhaps out of a desire to avoid making the same mistake twice.

Instead of worrying about the future, focus on the here and now. Because they have so many things to worry about, people who micromanage every aspect of their lives frequently lose sight of how to enjoy life.

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