Taking love ones for granted

I once took a loved one for granted. I did not appreciate her presence. She used to tell me to study or play while she does all the house work even though she was old and fragile. One day, I received a call, the unexpected happen. She was physically taken away. I was confused but I held a strong front. I wanted to say I love you and thank her for all the things she had done for me since I was a baby but it was too late. I wanted to spend more time with her but I couldn’t, she was gone. I regretted everything. I regretted not telling her how much her presence meant to me. I regretted not showing her love even though I loved her so much. I regretted not spending quality time with her.

I had so many years to spend time with her yet I did not because my work was more important, my playing was more important, my “friends” were more important, watching movies were more important and yet at her death all these were pointless. What was important was her, me showing her the love she should be getting from her granddaughter, me telling her that I appreciate everything that she had done and most importantly me spending time with her. The time that would have been filled with memories of fun, laughter, peace, joy, sadness, appreciation and of course massaging her legs! I could go on and on about what I want to say to her and my regrets but there is no point in that. I am only sharing this story of mine so that people can learn from my mistakes.

Shit happened and I learnt from it. I learnt it the hard way and this feeling sucks big time. You definitely have a love one out there. Show them your appreciation, tell them how much they mean to you and most importantly spend some time with them in this realm. Coz when they are gone for good you might only then realize that you wish you could have some time more with them. Life taught me that life can be unpredictable and ever since then I have always randomly told my family and friends I love them and showed my appreciation.

Don’t wait till they are gone, do not wait till you finish your work or dreams or wait for a certain time or whatsoever and then decide to spend time with your love one. What if they are taken away before all of that? Ya, you might say nah that won’t happen or you will be ok with it. Well it does happen, life was unpredictable to me and there is a possibility that it can be unpredictable to you too. Next, if you say you will be fine with it at their death then alright, it is your choice to be such. There is no right and wrong. Maybe your dreams, work, or whatsoever is more important than your love ones.

Close your eyes and see the person you love the most in this world. Next, imagine that one day you receive a call and you got to know that the person you love, be it your mother, father, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, ex, son, daughter, whoever, has passed away. Stop there and just be aware of how you are feeling, what emotions are you experiencing, what are the thoughts in your mind. Be aware of all of these and then decide if your love ones are more important or your work, dreams or whatever. There is no right and wrong to this. I know people who are in love with their work and that is fine. It is their choice. If you realize that your love ones are more important then reflect if you are taking them for granted. If you realize that your work/dreams etc are more important then its alright. I am not here to judge you neither should anyone judge you. Like I said, there is no right and wrong. I used to be the latter but after my life experience I personally know what I give more importance too. I hope you do not need to go through such experience in order to figure it out :).