How to overcome concerns

Emotions are a transcendental part of us, since they make us feel alive, they also help to free us without using any words. In this post we will talk about concern, an emotion that anyone has come to feel at a certain time.

In particular, chronic worry is one of the emotions that frequently lurk in some people, but you can get rid of it even if it has been the product of a very negative experience. For example, having been involved in a high-impact activity (assault, kidnapping, etc.).

The problem is when more than being an "alert" as the instinct of the human being in any situation of risk, it is an activity that needs to be done at every moment during the day.


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The chronic concern is, nothing more and nothing less, that useless information that we store and work on our minds. They are simply assumptions of fictitious situations. That is why it is valuable to realize when we have become a "chronic preocupón".

We must be clear that this malaise is the normal result of the changes that occur around us, it is common to worry, who is not a little afraid of the overturning of life?

But when it becomes an infinite cycle, as for example the following situation:

"They hired me in the job I wanted so much"

But what if my boss bored my way of working?

Or if I do something wrong the first day?

What if, when going to work, my neighbor's dog gets out, attacks me and chews everything ... and dies without receiving my first salary? ...


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That's when you realize that you have a strong relationship with chronic worry. Even though the change that happened in your life is good, you will always look for some disappointment or error.

The problem increases even more when the worry leads us to compare ourselves with people. As we enter this game of contrast, we begin to observe and think, how is it that other people do not look the same as us? We feel like "weirdos", the lives of others are so simple, why can not we have the chance to look as calm as them?



From there, the comparison makes you feel inferior to everyone and your development in any activity will not be the same.

The best thing to do in order not to be a "chronic worry" is to work through analysis. We will analyze how unlikely our concern becomes real. Let's think: are we really acting at this precise moment so that this uneasiness does not make sense?

We can even list and analyze them one by one:

Can I do something to change this situation?

What would be the first step?

What are my resources?

The reconstruction of a thought through analysis will always lead to improvement, since in this way we will be working our mind, those negative thoughts like worry will diminish.

We will no longer think of fiction, but rather in a reasonable way.



Remember that having a close connection with worry will not lead you to anything good, not only modify the one that you feel inferior to others as you enter your comparison game, but also can modify your physical appearance, it's time to break that relationship .

If you respond to this feeling with an action / solution, the same concern will break the bond with you 😉