Why You Are A Failure!!

in #life8 years ago

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Are you struggling to figure out why life never works out for you? A lot of people feel powerless to make changes in their life, And surprisingly you can make dramatic changes with little effort.

Stop Trying To Control Everybody/Everything

This is something I need to work on; Sometimes there are things in life that are completely out of our control.
Like whether it's going to rain today, Or if you're going to get a response to the text message you just sent.

We tend to stress out too much over things we have no control in. Like maybe a family member is making stupid decisions that can affect you or themselves down the road.
WE need to stop trying to control everything; Sure we can offer our advice. But when it comes down to it, We should spend our precious energy on those things that we actually CAN control.
You wasting your energy and stressing out over the stuff you can't control only hurting you. It also hurts your relationships. No One likes to feel "controlled." It's like instinct; We are programmed to want control. Control makes us feel good; It makes us feel powerful and desired. But we can't always expect to have it.

Stop Being a Perfectionist.

I Wish you could see my article as I type it right now. Everything is a mess; Things are spelled wrong. Things are capitalized in weird places.
But guess what? I don't' care; I can "polish" it when I'm done.
So many people focus on doing everything so perfectly the first time. You'll NEVER be perfect. There will always be some minor flaw in your work, no matter how meticulous you are. Sometimes its better to Make things "really good." When you go for that impossible "Perfect" title, you are setting yourself up for failure. You also will never obtain it, Which will hurt your self-esteem and you'll never feel good about anything that you do "well."
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Open your mind!

So many people have a closed mind. It's like the people on Facebook who are too scared to join Steemit.
I wouldn't have joined steemit either if I kept my mind closed.
Often we like to stick with habits and our way of being so closely that we never have a chance to even taste success.
Sucess is growing and developing yourself, And to grow you need that open mind.

Don't Expect Overnight Sucess

So many people these days feel entitled to automatic success. They give up because they don't see it happen right away. This is a harmful behavior Because often the best opportunity of your life is something that continually needs to be worked on.
I've been writing on Steemit for almost a year now! I didn't gain traction overnight. You could argue that the community was smaller and so I was more visible. Which is true! But it still took a lot of hard work and experimenting, To see what work and what doesn't to start gaining that momentum.
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A good way to make yourself feel better about how fast you're getting "success" is looking for groups on Facebook or other social media sites, and interact with the people who are working towards the same things you are. Don't just look at the news; They only show the best people. And some people "Get Lucky" or "Have more experience" so they can gain traction faster than others.

Although don't go too crazy with "comparing." Everyone's life is different, and not everyone has the same pathway to success. Just use it to give yourself a benchmark so you can effectively make goals that you can achieve.

Thank you @elyaque for the awesome Badges!

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Love this!! I hate "lucky". But at the same time, Some people appear "lucky" Because they end up in the right place at the right time.

very valid points. yet it's usually not a person's fault, basic human tendency is to follow the norm and most of these traits are like gifts passed down a generation. it takes time and effort to break away I guess.

I agree with that completely! But sometimes we have to break away to get what we want from our short lives.

absolutely true. limiting oneself is foolish when the world's your oyster. without risk there are certainly no rewards. and as you said, life is too short :)

Ouch! Tough title day! I hope no ones waking up in a low mood already! To be fair though the solutions are valid, it's mainly a state of mind/perception of yourself I guess?

Amazing post dear. Following you for more post :D

Almost always, people are 'failures' because that's the identity they've acquired while growing up. And ultimately, that failure identity is just a thought (or collection of thoughts) that can be transcended.

The 3 Principles is the best philosophy I've encountered for seeing past the illusion of thought and false notions like 'failure'.

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@kaylinart: 'false notions like failure' sounds a bit critical (oops!) - I wasn't invalidating your post in any way. You make some good points about some of the thinking traps people fall into. Just thought I'd clarify :)

needed this :) thanks for posting

NO problem :)

To be honest @kaylinart i started to not like ypur post cause they are soo good that makes me realize why I fail in my art projects, and overall life ..

Jk i love them cause of that .. keep the good work not just because of money, but because ypu are actually helping others in a wise way

These are very nice and powerful words :) I really liked your post, I just joined this community and reading this makes me feel more confident in the future!
Although I would have included at least a mention on the importance of daily meditation to let your mind rest, but I guess it's not a thing for all :)
Thanks for the inspiration!

thank you for the advice @kaylinart These words are extremely helpful!

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