Just opening our eyes in the morning we usually think about how our day will be, this makes us imagine how it will be every little detail along the way, what we will eat, what will be the way to work, or even how will be our performance. Depending on the context we handle, what we imagine will be good or bad, but that does not ensure anything throughout our day and even life. We always create expectations, with the smallest events or with the stupidest things, we always do. The problem of all this falls when reality gives us a slap, and down from a cloud ... or not necessarily, we can ride in one if the expectations are negative.

In this post we will talk a little about this, expectations and reality, as two facts of our day to day determine certain things in the course of a life, so to better understand this we start as is custom, definitions.

Expectation!

The real Spanish academy defines expectation as:

"Hope to accomplish or achieve something"

"Reasonable chance that something will happen"

We can observe in these two concepts of expectations that speaks of "hope" and "possibility", are very subjective things, when we create an expectation with respect to something we are simply have a hope or possibility that things happen as we are thinking , whether good or bad, although I really believe that the expectations are positive, since when we talk about negative, I think we enter the field of predisposition.

From a very small one, it relates the predisposition in a negative way, clear with respect to the facts or actions, since a predisposition can be good, in given case, to remove that doubt of above, we define predisposition:

"To prepare, to dispose in advance something or the mood of someone for a certain purpose"

You see, we're not necessarily referring to something negative, it's just the anticipation we have of some facts that are about to occur, but taking action on the subject, while the expectation is just the idea we have about it. Having already left the doubt, we can say that the expectation will always exist in our day to day, the problem falls when we have high expectations regarding something and reality tells us something else, that's when many fall into disappointment or in nonconformity that things did not go as we wanted or thought.

Reality!

Here we have the villain of the film, reality, truth I do not consider bad reality, since reality is what it is, you can not change things are as they are, it is up to us to improve that reality or not. But before going any further with the subject, let's define reality:

"Real and effective existence of something"

"What is effective or has practical value, as opposed to the fantastic and illusory"

Reading these concepts we can put this way, the expectation would be the illusion while reality forms an antagonistic role, which should never be antagonistic, is what is and already, as I mentioned before. We must take into account the possibilities and put them in our favor, so that our reality is better or what we want, hard work and perseverance will fulfill those illusions or expectations that we have.

 The winner is!

In this pitched battle between expectations and reality, there is one very important aspect that we must take into account, and that is that many times our expectations surpass reality, although if it is true that I firmly believe that we must have those expectations and desire of that things are as we think, since it is the first to meet our wildest dreams, everything starts with an idea or thought, that would lead us to achieve great things, have expectations is not bad, the problem is when we give a lot we are open to be hurt or disappointed, because reality is one and we mold it to our likeness with actions, not with expectations. The right is given to this case to reality, it is blunt and crude, but that makes everything more interesting, since we allow ourselves to think and believe in something different and generate our expectations.

Images taken from:

https://befullness.com/nadie-te-ofende-son-tus-expectativas/
http://profesionistas.org.mx/expectativa-vs-realidad-de-estudiar-una-carrera/
http://www.rinconpsicologia.com/2014/09/como-las-expectativas-de-los-demas.html
https://lamenteesmaravillosa.com/tengo-que-cumplir-con-las-expectativas-sociales/
https://www.definicionabc.com/comunicacion/realidad-objetiva.php
http://nutricionybuenasalud.com/salud/realidad

Pages consulted:

http://www.rae.es/