Only one power can change yourself, it is you.

Can you relate being in maelstrom when there seems no way out, all you see is darkness? Your faith in self shatters into pieces and an unstoppable uncertainty overwhelms you. Surely, all of us can relate to that. What impulsivity makes us do in such blue moments is look for people around to get some help. In such moments of emotional blockage, anyone with empathy seems like an angel to us.

Getting direction, for sure, in emotional crisis is a blessing but sometimes the answer to our prayers is just beneath the surface. In quest of peace we go so far not knowing it is closer than we ever imagined, it is you!
Yes, you read it right. The only power to change yourself is none but you. However, sometimes in the roller coaster of worrisome thoughts, you can lose the perspective.

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How can you stay focused and help yourself when all you see is dark? Here’re a few quick tricks you should do whenever you go through such situations.

• Write down Your Mind

Whether you are in a panic attack or over-thinking, the first thing you should do is to relax, take a deep breath. Close your eyes and put a stop to every single thought. Now with your mind being all clear, ask yourself ‘what do you want’?

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Take a paper and pen, start writing down whatever your brain tells you at this crucial moment. Only after 5-minutes you will start seeing the best solution to your problems. Right then you will experience the best feeling ever, being the savior of yourself.

• Sweet Are the Fruits of Adversity

You need to embrace the fact that change is always painful. Sometimes it’s downright painful like breaking up with bae or losing a friend. Know that you cannot hate caterpillar and go wild on the butterfly. Being in blue moments is the toughest thing to bear but trust the future for it holds the fruits of adversity.

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You may receive gratification for your loss a little late but never lose hope, you will get it! The sooner you realize this, the less you would want to be dependent on others.

• You Are Given This Life Because You Are Strong Enough to Live It

Whenever you face any kind of adversity, think of Maya Angelou who wisely said,

Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you… yet, someone survived… You can do anything you choose to do. Maya Angelou

How beautiful and perfect, right? It’s only you who decides the amount of happiness for yourself. Only you know your worth so don’t waste your time asking someone else, instead ask yourself.

• You Face Adversity Because You Are Ready For It

One of the biggest reasons god sends you adversity is because you are ready for it. Don’t be scared. Face it, embrace it for it is going to get the best out of you.

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When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can’t make them change if they don’t want to, just like when they do want to, you can’t stop them. Andy Warhol

• Look at the Silver Lining

Searching for positive things out of negative situations is the prime quality of being an optimist. It might sound sappy to some but the strength lies in it. Are you going to get if I stay depressed and blue? Convince yourself how proud you will be if you survive out of this mess on your own.

Search for the positive signs around you. Look at the sun, how it survives when the dark clouds surround it not giving its warmth a way out. When the dark clouds are over, the sun shines with full force and brightens everything in reach.

• Avoid Dwelling on Downers

Fixing on worrisome thoughts will only worsen the situation making you less effective in tackling the matter. You have to let go of things that make you down. Don’t give an ear to anyone advising you negatively. They are all downers. Don’t fall for them.

Ask yourself, is this matter worth my energy? Distract yourself from everything having a negative charge on it. Concentrate on problem-solving exercises instead of instead of spinning your worry-wheels.

• Making a Mountain out of Molehill Will Not Save Your Day

If you are going too fast in worries, even a molehill will look like a huge mountain to you. This is how a negative perspective destroys you. At this moment, what you need is a perspective shift. Stay focused on solving the problem rather the problem itself.

Do a small relaxing trick. Tell yourself ‘Stop’ and quit with all the heap of garbage ideas in your brain. Take some deep breaths with your eyes shut. Now start thinking about how can you get out of this trouble. Remember, you can easily drool on the negative path again if you go to a cloud for the change.

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Lastly, don’t forget slow and steady wins the race. The good change will come but it will make you worth it first. Stop looking for it around, be the change you want to see.