How To Keep Your Sanity

We Are Emotional Creatures

 Did you know that your emotional right brain trumps your logical left brain when making decisions in life? 

 At the age of two, the brain’s  right side, as it develops becomes more active and dominant over the  left brain which is home to language, logic and reason. We think that we  are reasonable when it comes to making important decisions, but  apparently it’s all but an illusion. 

 When our right brain makes an  emotional decision, our left brain tricks us and comes up with a logical  reason to justify our decision. This process is called  “post-rationalization.” In fact, this process has been scientifically  proven by a neuropsychologist named Roger Sperry. In his experiment he  triggered the command to walk in a subject’s right brain (emotion), in a  way that the left (logic) brain was unaware. Interestingly, the  subjects actually got up and started to walk. Yet when asked why they  decided to walk, they came up with random reasons such as, wanting to  stretch or to get a drink of water. The amazing part was that these  subjects were not lying. They were entirely honest, because they were  tricked and believed the reasoning provided by their left (logic)  brains!  

Emotions Fuel Our Decisions

Understanding the connection  between our emotions and decisions is important. We make decisions every  single day and it’s the very act of deciding that leads to our actions  and results. I have shared with our readers before how my decision to relocate from New Zealand to Singapore have completely changed my life.  

I experienced new things, gradually changed my values in life, gained  and lost priceless things and ultimately, became a different person. One  single decision have changed my life upside down. 

 Decisions have the power to alter the course of our lives. But it’s not just the big decisions but also the small ones.  Deciding to smile when you are upset, deciding to be grateful, deciding  to wake up early or even deciding to drink more water. They are all  trivial things but just like the ripples in a pond when you throw a tiny  pebble, every single decision we make, big or small, will have a  consequence in our lives.  

 If we sum up the information above, it can be concluded that; 

1. We are innately unreasonable beings because our emotional right brain trumps over our logical left brain. 
2. More often than not, we make decisions based off our emotions.
3. Decisions produce actions, and our actions is what shapes our future.  

 This means that we are victims of our own emotions. Although we know and understand  that our decisions define our course of life, it’s scientifically  proven that we make emotional decisions over logic. This is bad news for  anyone that wants to live a life by design and be successful in all  facets of life. Surely you wouldn’t want your emotions to dictate how  your life turns out. Then how can we overcome this? It is impossible to  live a life entirely detached from one’s emotions, but it can be done  temporarily.  

Have Your Emotions In Check

 Self-observation techniques is  one of the best methods to keep your sanity and have your emotions in  check. By observing yourself, you can create distance from an event to  better assess your emotions and thoughts in a non-judgmental way.  

1. Keep A Diary

 One of the most effective way of practicing self-observation is to keep a diary. I am an avid fan of writing journals and I do it quite systematically.  Every morning, I write a list of all the things that I am grateful for.  Writing a gratitude list makes me happy for all the things that I have  and it attracts more of the things that I am grateful for. Throughout  the day I write about the day ahead, my feelings towards a certain event  or a person, a conversation log, problems that I’m facing and events  that a noteworthy. Journaling is known to have the following benefits:  

• Clarify thoughts and emotions 
• Understand about yourself in a deeper level
• Reduce stress
• Solve problems more efficiently
• Raise awareness of your situation and time

 

2. Meditation

 I practice deep breathing  meditation. Whenever I take a ride on public transportation or at any  given down time, I do the following steps: 

•  Stand or sit upright with the spine straight as possible 
•  Take moments to “simply be” and notice whatever I am experiencing in that moment – sounds, thoughts, feelings, sensations, etc. 
•  Bring focus to breathing. 6 seconds of deep diaphragmatic breathing  through the nose, hold for 2 and exhale through the mouth for 6 seconds,  and repeat. 
•  Whenever the mind wanders away from the breath, gently refocus on breathing. 

 In  today's world, meditation has become a mandatory part of life. study  shows that we are now more stressed than those who lived during the  blitz period (1940-1941) of world war ii.

 This works for me because it’s  simple and versatile. But there’s many other forms of meditation out  there and it’s best to choose what works for you. Meditation in general  has the benefits of: 

•  Reversing anxiety 
•  Improved concentration levels and observational skills 
•  Reduced stress 
•  Increased creativity and problem solving skills 
•  Promote tissue regeneration and repair 
•  Increased oxygen to vital organs: brain, heart and eye 

 

3. Expose Yourself To Good Stress

 Too much stress can make you sick and shut down your brain. As discussed in my previous article “Stress Kills – Learn to adapt not just cope with it”,  we are exposed to stress so much that it has become a normal part of  life. But not all stress is bad for you. Moderate amounts of “Good  Stress” can actually help your brain’s neural pathway to grow. Welsh  researcher, David Snowden found that subjects who held a university  degree and continued to learn and cultivate new interests throughout  their lives were actively encouraging levels of good stress. 

 Then how can we expose ourselves  to good stress? The answer is simple, get out of your comfort zones. It  was found that physiologically, “Good Stress” occurs when we engage in  something new and challenging. Good stress was found to be beneficial in  the following ways: 

•  Stimulate the brain 
•  Improve the brain’s overall function and health 
•  Promote longevity 
•  Improve concentration levels and clarity 

 

Live A Life By Design

 We all want to be, live and have  something better. Before you think about how to change the world around  you, start by changing yourself and becoming a slave to good habits. Not  everyone turns out to be successful and it’s not because of knowledge.  There is never a lack of knowledge; we all know what to do and what not  do. Taking action is all the difference it makes in becoming the person  and living the life that you want. Now that you understand our innate  flaws of being emotional creatures, do at least one of the actions  outlined above to have your emotions in check. Be in control over  emotions and you will be in control over your life.