Wife Material Vs Husband Material
People take those labels quite seriously where I am from but what people don't seem to realize is that there's no blueprint for marriage. People are different and therefore tastes are different. You can't actually determine for sure if someone is husband/wife material or not.
The thing is, if you point out different people in the world, a few things might intersect but it can never be completely identical. What you think is nice in a person, another person will dislike and vice-versa. Don't point out ridiculous things and tell people that this is what everybody wants in a spouse.
There is this ridiculous idea that if a woman is not ready for suffering, she can't be a good wife. Who says. You hear things like oh I can't marry a woman who can't feed the house with a little amount of money, she must be ready to wash clothes and pound yam o. You people realize that there are washing and pounding machines available? Or my husband must be able to get me everything I want, he must buy me clothes and expensive stuff. You also realize that there are things called jobs?.
Marriage is not about hardship or bank rolling your expensive tastes. It's about mutual support and love. You care for your spouse and not how fat their pocket is or how much clothes they can wash by hand. So let's care less about those things and more about the happiness of our partners
PLEASE UPVOTE, COMMENT AND RESTEEM
Well said @jade56. People spend excessive time and effort trying to find the perfect husband or ideal wife, whereas "perfection" is relative as one man's meat is another man's poison. I think it's best to improve oneself first before trying to demand for someone who is the perfect match. After all if you can't be "perfect" for someone else then why should someone else be "perfect" for you?
This one burst my head.
@blessing97 the marriage councillor
It's for people to comment on with their idea of what they think marriage should mean. This is not about marriage counseling @camzy
I see
I was just praising his point
Nothing much
Haha Counsellor ke?
Very true @blessing97
Good! From the conception to delivery and conclusion, this piece is all perfect.
But permit me to state my ands and buts
Many people grew up with the idea of a dream man or woman. Better still, some people have a settled conviction about who their partner will be.
Well! They might end up not getting all they want as per features and characteristics but in one way or the other, spotting a person having a share of what they want is a green light for them to push a relationship through.
The next step is now about accessing the person.
Checking if they can live up to the wrongs of the person and if they rights of the person would beenough to keep them together for a lifetime.
Truth been told there is no perfect person. But one can have a person with a share of the characteristics of history her dream person. Even if its just 20%
I am not saying you shouldn't have an idea of whom you want to marry. I am saying you should accept whomever you marry, flaws and all @ttopswag
That's why we are on the same page.
Saying the same things in different ways.
"marriage is not about hardship or bank rolling your expensive tastes.
Well-said"
People should just know what they want from a person and in a relationship.
However, happiness isn't carried when some necessities are missing. Sometimes, it feels like love alone isn't enough and also when there is love, mountains can be pulled down
I know. It's just that so many people seem to enter into it with the wrong idea @mimy
Wonderful post @jade53
Thanks for highlighting the issues.
The funny thing with this marriage issue is when the two spouse finally find a perfect match, beleive me it will be a disaster, there cant be a mix of perfection.
Good work
Thank you @daredevil
why should anyone be looking for perfection in his or her partner in the first place ? when the Bible already said only the almighty God is completely perfect. Or is there a second God? nice post @Jade56
I know. There is no perfect being in this world. If I am not perfect, then I should not expect someone else to be perfect @jimemmanuel
I think everyone has their own definition of wife material based on their personality. I think no one can actually have a 100% quality and everyone love people for the iniqueness they find in them. Love is the ultimate and sometimes is not enough if there is no understanding. Well done dear!
Thank you @gloglo