How To Raise Intelligent Children, Advices From Harvard Professors

Raising a dear, respectable and friendly child is and has always been a very difficult job, but it is something that each of us can do. No other job is more important or rewarding. But there are some tactics as follows:

1. Get involved with the children.
   This is the foundation of everything. Spend time with your children regularly, ask yourself open questions, how they see the world, and listen carefully to their answers. Not only will you know their world more, but you will tell them to care for them.

2. If it is important, say aloud.
   According to scholars, although parents feel that being dear and polite is the primary quality they should have their children, this message does not always go to them, so be sure to tell this to the children clearly. This way they know what is required and you are consulting with teachers, trainers and other people working with your child about your child's behavior.

3. Tell the child how to "solve problems".
   Guide your children through decision-making processes that take into account all people who are affected by the problem. For example, if your child wants to stop the exercise, encourage him to discover the cause of the discomfort and consider his obligation to the team.

4. Make the gratitude and assistance a routine
   Researchers write, "People who make habit of expression of gratitude are more likely to be helpful, generous, oblivious and compassionate, and they are also keen to be happier and healthier." It is good for parents give assignments to help others and to thank them.

5. Monitor the negative emotions of the child
   "The ability to look after another is burdened by anger, shame, envy, or other negative emotions," the researchers say. Help that can be given to children to identify and process these emotions, and then to guide them to secure conflict resolution, makes them focused on the goal of being a loving individual.

6. Tell the children the full view
   "Almost all of the children share and care for a small circle of family and friends," the researchers say. The goal is to teach them to look after people outside their social, cultural, and even geographic circle. You can help develop these qualities by teaching them to be good listeners and to put themselves in the situation of the other.