The Friendship Mantra

in #life9 years ago


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Having someone to call your friend is absolutely amazing. Things might not exactly be running smoothly for you but if you have true friends, they'll always be available for you to lean on. Whether that crew you attended school with or that person you met at a social event, one can make friends in almost any situation. You can sit in complete silence with a friend and leave feeling much better than you were, when you arrived.

A friend will always have your back, encourage you when you you need to be encouraged and caution you when you are making a mistake . There is a particular level, to which friendship can get and the individuals will no longer regard themselves as friends but rather as family.

Different people show their affection for their friends in different ways but overall, you will always be able to identify that underlying tone of love, regardless of how the affection is shown. Friends will do several things for each other, which might appear totally crazy to outsiders but is regarded as a norm to these friends.

While in school, I had every kind of friend you could imagine and while some are what might be described as crazy, they are all absolutely amazing in their own rights. I have friends who will always try to hook me up with the next girl that comes along, friends who are always inspiring me to be more industrious, friends who can't bear to see me get hurt by anyone and will instantly go into "Dragon mode" to battle against whoever hurts me. I am surrounded by people with whom I have spent the best part of my life with and I could not have wished for better friends. No matter what happens, people who call themselves friends should always have one another's back and serve as guides, who correct themselves when they are going wrong.

If a group of people have been friends for a long time and don't have any quarrels, there is an high probability that they are not true friends. Nobody likes to be reprimanded, as rebukes hurt our ego and several people will lash out if heir ego is hurt. However, if you have a friend who you don't reprimand when he does anything wrong, you are not a good friend and it can be said that you are only interested in the ruin of such an individual. Where I come from, we have saying which is loosely translated thus "When two brothers go in for a discussion and come out smiling, they were not sincere with each other but when two brothers go in for a discussion and come out with bitter faces, only then have they been sincere with themselves". If you don't chastise your friend when he does something wrong, you can be likened to an evil person who is only interested in his downfall. "The truth is bitter", they say, but saying the truth will set you free.

If you are the kind of person who is never willing to listen to corrections and will readily jump to the conclusion that your friends hate you or are jealous of you, whenever you are chastised, then you don't deserve to have such good friends. Only someone who is interested in your progress will make attempts to call you to order, when you are going astray.

Friendship is beautiful and is not something that should be readily discarded. Do not give up on your friends when they are going down the wrong path. You should rather strive to call them, make them see the folly in their ways and call them to order. If you have any friend with whom you have a quarrel, I implore you in the name of whatever you revere the most, try and settle your differences. Enmity will not help anyone in any way but rather cause serious pain to the individuals involved. However, if someone leaves you because you were honest with them, such an individual does not deserve to be called your friend n any way. Such an individual should rather be left to his own devices.

However as a friend, you should learn to respect the opinions of your friend(s) and not try to impose your own views upon them. You should understand that they totally have a right to their own opinions as they are quite different from you. You should allow your friends too feel comfortable to say no, whenever they are inclined to.

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Thanks for reading, live long and prosper

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FRIEND. find reality in exquisite natural dimension. one love bro

friendship eh, having friends is a burden, or rather one of the burdens of life. No man is an island.

very nice one. Keep it up

I really love this. We must learn to take correction. Our friends should also learn to correct us in love. It's better to correct a friend privately, because so many people don't like public rebuke.

Thanks for your opinion.

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