I do not deny my feelings and emotions; I listen and deal with them.

The last 6 months have been a traumatic time after losing my mother. I knew coping with the loss will be unimaginably difficult. It was very challenging dealing with the loss of my father three years ago and I expected I will go through the same road all over again.

The unbearable ache on the heart that weighs down on and the endless emotions it brings up makes it a rough process to go through.

People talk to you about it for the first two month then act like nothing happened around you. There is no set time frame when it will get better. Even months later, it is stills shocking and painful as the moment I learnt the news. it hits you anytime like a wave and you realize you are way far from moving on. Some wounds, time won’t even heal.

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How do you come to terms with a loss?

I was feeling uncertain how to proceed with things when the time came to go out and deal with the world. People expect you to be brave, strong and smiling. Conversations get unreal. You cannot force healing. Loss and grieving are inevitable. You can’t speed the process. It is what it is. It tells how much you loved!

Miss you mum.