Choosing Your People
I used to think it is easy for me to connect with people and make friends. even as a child, when we moved a lot, it was always easy for me to make friends. So why as an adult it's all of the sudden so difficult?
In the last couple of years, I found it harder for me to make friends or even enjoy new people's company. It's not not that I'm actively looking to make new friends, I'm compactly happy with the small, yet very close group of friends that I already have. I just thought it could be nice to have some friends in this part of the world.
At first, I thought that I just didn't meet the right type of people, but as the time went by, I started to think that maybe I was the problem. Maybe I'm too judgmental or too guarded and not open to create new relationships. After all, all I need is 2 minutes of conversation to decide whether you're irritating or close friend material type of person.
I was sure that I was the one who avoided close human contact. But few weeks ago, I met my boyfriend's far relative who came for a visit. I never met her before, but we get along from the first moment and I even let her join my long beach walks. We spent a lot of time together and got to know each other and eventually, we became close friends.
So now I guess, that real problem wasn't me being too picky. The problem was that I just didn't meet the right type of people. After all, not everyone should be my friends, and I pretty confident that I know how choose my close friends.
Well we have differences, nothing sweetie than childhood friends but along the journey of life many fells off, some travel far and not engage well with old friends anymore.... #True friend#you can know by actions and behavior which one is true friend or fake. for me I i don't hv problems with making friends.... I had mets and make friends from four corners of the world in Facebook, real life and Twitter.... but then I thought I had make enough friend until I joined this great platform...
Oh I have met great guys of high caliber and interact together so wonderful here than any other platforms/ social network in the past.
Couldn't agree more
I was thinking about same thing recently too. I think it is easier to make friends when you a kid because of nature of kids. kids unlike adults dont have hidden agenda (well majority I guess), children pretty much honest and accept things the way they are. And as adult you kind of get to question people, especially based on not good experience so you either meet someone and click immediately or invest time to knowing person.
Absolutely agree about meeting right people. Those you usually don't even question when you meet them :)
Kids are more naive and less picky, this is why some childhood friendships don't last. As we grow we know ourselves better, and know better what type of relationship makes us happier and which don't.
Exactly.
We grow up, refine our energy and body-of-consciousness, and it's only natural that we feel a connection to certain people, that match who we are, or at least one (or more) aspect of who we are.
True. Even if it seems like your friends are completely different from you, in reality they do have some key aspects that match you.
Hi @helenril, I haven't seen you post in awhile. I am hoping that you will get back to posting again. Thanks for all the upvotes you have been giving me. This blog here was a very good one. You are a good writer and I hope that you will write some more. Take care. David.
Hey @david777111, I really appreciate you noticing I haven't posted for a while. I was traveling, so I didn't have much time or access to my computer in the last two and a half weeks. Got back yesterday and I'm still exhausted, but I promise I'll post something very soon.
Thanks again , and look forward to catch-up with your latest post :)
Hi @helenril, Oh great you were traveling. Yes, looking forward to your next post. Get all rested up. :)
I can relate very well. I thought it was me but it just happened that I'm not meeting the right type of people. Maybe I was too busy being on my own that I grab any chance to be with anyone, which only increases the possibility of being with all kinds of people lol.
Yeah, I remember your blog post about it, I read it the same week I met my new friend.
I guess those type of people were extremely irritating, lol
Very true... it is a life long search.
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