Oh, I'd say there is some physical resemblance between you and your father. That doesn't make you him, though. And I'm glad to hear you're doing things because they feel right, and not to try to please him or finish his legacy. That is, in my opinion, the best way to honor and extend his, by doing what you feel is right and thus creating your own legacy.

It's also okay to remember the negative moments along with the positive. We're human and we are often more than just one or the other. It's the sum total, or the accumulation of all of those actions and in which direction they move us which make the difference. If all we did is honor the good, we would probably do ourselves, as children, and our mothers, a disservice.