Perception - Classy vs Trashy
The music was loud, vibrating off of every surface in the dark club. People of all walks of life milling about, socializing and drinking. Not a fuck given. Everyone is out for a good time, not a long time like Trooper...
At 5:27pm my car starts ringing, it's recieved from the bluetooth connection to my cell phone. I choose to ignore and continue listening to my music instead. When I am stopped I check my voicemail.
It's a friend of mine wondering if I have plans tonight and would be interested in going out. Um yes! I fire off a quick text, to let her know I will call soon.
Half hour later, back at home, I give her a ring on the phone. She feels like dancing, and for anyone who knows me this is my favourite stress defeater! We make plans and I pick her up in the city a while later.
After a couple pre-drinks, meant to save money, we head over the local bar. It's definitely not a club, but has a dance floor after 10:30pm. Shorty after arriving we see it is not busy at all. Lame, but we will still dance!
Not long before we hit the dance floor, a very tall, very red headed woman walks by our table. At this point I am alone as my friend stepped outside to smoke... gag...so I am in shock all by me onesie.
There is a man, behind the red haired amazon, filming her parade through the bar. I was shocked and here is why. She wore only a silver body suit, not unlike a thong and with a criss-crossed back. Now I'm all for dressing sexy for your partner, in your home, behind closed doors. But honestly, this is too much. Maybe a photoshoot but not a bar, especially a sports bar.
Now, I'm not judgemental and this night I wasn't either but, when I see something of this nature, it baffles me. And let me point out it is important to be confident and strong, walk into a place like you own it, to which, she did.
Back to the table comes my friend and she asked if I had seen this woman. Of course I had, everyone did. We grab a drink and head to the dance floor.
A while later, don't ask me how long all sense of time is lost in the rhythm of the beat, and I needed a trip to the ladies room. While in there I can hear the fire-capped woman speaking in a stall with her friend.
She was a he for one, which I am not judging, it was what was discussed that concerned me. She was asking her companion about her shimmery silver attire and if it looked okay, looked like a lady. Obviously feeling very insecure, her friend consoled her claiming yes of course.
Here is my concern. What has the definition of lady come to if it means walking around a sports bar or anywhere that isn't a beach, because let's be honest it was essentially a bathing suit, in something so scare of fabric?
I have a daughter, a beautiful daughter and she dresses like a lady, doesn't always sound like one but she understands the difference. She knows if her ass cheeks hang out she will be bringing on very negative attention and view of herself.
I'm sure to get some flack for this blog and I don't mind. Never having believed in the "slut walk" and baring your breasts as a way to be an empowered woman, bring on the third wave feminist destructive hate. Not having care for yourself and temple (body) is not something to be proud of.
With a positive mind I am going to hope for the best response to this post but honestly your opinion is your own as is mine. I'm just finding it very hard to believe the likes of icons who push exposed flesh as a way to be an empowered woman can be conducive to change in this world and teach young women to truly be self respecting ladies.
We need real empowerment and not just for women but men as well. If women conduct themselves as sex kittens men are going to respond with a primal instinct and see you as your projection, imo. Gentlemen and the like, I am not trying to be your voice.
Empowerment - A person aiming for empowerment is able to take control of their life by making positive choices and setting goals. Developing self-awareness, an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses - knowing your own limitations is key to personal empowerment.
Ladies, do yourselves a favour, respect yourself enough to know the line between classy sexy and slutty sexy. They are very different and no one but the one who respects and cares for you as a whole deserves to see what you offer beneath the fine attire you use to meticulously accentuate your body. And when your friend is asking if they look like a lady and they don't, be honest. It's like not telling someone they have spinach in their teeth before giving a public statement.
