This post was found sitting on a see-saw. Meaning, sometimes you might find it go up, other times it might go down. It's a tough act balancing the issue that was touched on in this post. As usual, it will be interesting to read your thoughts.

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"We live in a world where a lot of women have this entitlement thing going on. Women have been made to believe it is the men's sole responsibility to take care of them. But who takes care of the men? Who takes time to serve them, encourage them and pray for them? Love really is two way. I want to take care of my man as much as he desires to take care of me."

The above came to light during a discussion between myself and a friend. She schooled me on what it truly means to take care of a man. While few ladies may disagree with her opinion, most will agree as much as I do.

I'd like to begin on the note that the only difference between men and women is the spiritual and moral obligation society and religion has pronounced. Men are leaders of the home; they are to provide, protect and pamper their family physically. Women are the heart of the home; they are also expected to protect, provide and pamper their family spiritually and morally. Void of low or high self-esteem issues on either’s part, they are as important as each other.

The death of the head or the heart is the death to the body.

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Marriages crumble, relationships fail, true love is missing because some ladies have taken it to heart that a man sole responsibility is to take care of them. When this doesn't happen they begin to grumble. Men are emotional too, we feel, sometimes a little too much than women. Some men misbehave because their wives don't care enough. You can't go wrong with the right woman.

It all makes sense now. A while back I asked a certain lady why she was still single. Sincerely I hadn't expected her response,

"Ah! Why else? I can't date a man that can't take care of me."

She is still searching. No, she's dating her ego.

It is okay to desire a man that will take care of you or meet your needs as your intention really whispers, but when last did you open your mind to friendship for the sole purpose of meeting a man whom your presence in his life will bring progress?

I'm not talking about showering him with gifts and money, some men are utterly irresponsible they will take advantage of that and use recession as an excuse. I mean desiring a man for the purpose of genuinely loving, caring and supporting him. I'd like to chip in that some ladies are irresponsible too; if he doesn't have enough money, kolewerk.

The days when love was blind have gone into extinction. These times are periods when we open our eyes, realize the imperfection in the person we desire, embrace that imperfection without prejudice and make him/her better. This is what makes love blossom. It is the fruit it bears that makes it true.

In the absence of combined efforts love is just love, nothing is true.

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I was discussing with one of my mentors on marriage and relationship issues. I asked him how he chose his wife and he answered,

"I didn't choose my wife, she chose me. The same flaw other ladies saw in me and fled was the same one that attracted her. When I asked why she settled for me she told me I was a gold in the mould and not a gold-plated metal. She didn't just choose me, she made me realise I was more valuable than I imagined."

You can't just pick something on the street and call it yours. You have to acquire it in a proper way. So also, to truly call a man or woman your own, his/her life must reflect your touch and presence. Nobody is good enough, there's always a discouraging feature. If you truly need them, it's your duty to fix them.

Without him being irresponsible about it, there's no crime in being richer than your husband. There's absolutely no crime in being a better cook than your wife. Forget what society thinks, if you find him deserving, invest that wealth in him. For as many children as you want, she has earned the right to be taught how to make a proper meal. I doubt if there's a greater submission of a wife to her husband than carrying their child for nine months.

Dear lady, there's no crime in being the extra to his ordinary.

Men, realize that all mothers are superheroes; your mother and wife.

Every couple is each other's responsibility. 80% of healthy marriages work because of the wives. Real women are keepers. Take care of your man as much as he is willing to take care of you. If you are single, purposing your heart to do this is the only way to find a worthy man.

Ready-made don't fit like custom made. Build the partner you desire, to your taste.

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The International Women's Day is on the 8th of March, 2018. All posts on this account from now on will lead up to that day 😁