Life is over when you have kids

Life is over when you have kids. That is something that many people who don't want to have kids (not all) say. People who decide not to have kids ( not because of health issues) might think that their life will be over when they have kids and that they can not enjoy life anymore. They think that you will change baby diapers forever and you have to give up all the fun things they are doing right now. But how can you think like that if you never had kids? Just by looking at other people?

For me my kids are my everything and I have to disagree with those who are of the opinion that life is over when you have kids. My life actually just started at the moment I got kids. We chose to have kids because we felt our house was too quiet. I wanted to take care of someone else (my kids) and don't put myself on the first place anymore. Kids who feel comfortable when I am near them and call me Mama. It just sounds so beautiful. Especially the first time they called me mama. Later on, they suddenly could say: Mama, I love you. They don't say it like you and me, but with their cute angel voice.

When you decide to have kids then you should really do your best to take good care of them. In the beginning, especially with your first child, it can be challenging because you never took care of someone except yourself. It is a big switch to suddenly take care of a tiny person crying all the time not knowing what your baby wants. For me it was extremely challenging because I didn't have my mother near me to give me tips. (No, she is still alive...) But this is just in the beginning. Babies get older and bigger and the crying all night will be over. The first few months can be very tough.

I am not gonna lie about that. But what do we learn or can we learn when life is only easy? My first few months with my first baby were difficult and challenging but I need challenge in my life to be strong. Kids cry because they can not speak yet. They will cry a lot the first few months. Later on, you will enjoy your time with your kids even more.

Your baby isn't a baby anymore and he/she can crawl. You will feel very proud what your child can do in this short period. They learn it all by them selves. Isn't it amazing?

When your second child is born, you are already prepared and aren't that insecure anymore. My second child was very easy. He let us sleep very good the first night. Then it starts again, the crying, feeding in the night. But time really flies I can tell you. When my second baby was crying I didn't know why he was crying because I fed him already and changed his diaper too. I changed couple positions first and wrapped him tight like I did with his older brother. Nothing worked. Later I found out that he didn't like sleeping on his back, he wanted to sleep on his tummy. So I let him sleep on his tummy. Even in his baby stroller he refused to sleep on his back. So people were looking weird at me because I let him sleep on his tummy in his stroller. Even the doctor disagreed with that position. But I know my son and I just did what I thought was the best for him.

Your baby can walk and eat by himself. You don't have to feed him anymore. You are gonna laugh a lot because babies and toddlers can be so cute and funny!

They are playing hide and seek for example. For me, the cutest phase of their life was when they were age 1-3 years old. When they just start to learn to talk and you are as their mom or dad, the only one who understands what they are saying. I remember when I was outside in a shop and my kids talked to someone, that person didn't understand what my kids said, but I understood everything.

Many months has passed and suddenly your child can climb! You get worried that he will fall but your child tells you that he wants to climb himself and he doesn't want you to help him.

Few years passed and your child doesn't need diapers anymore. Some are quicker than others. We had to bring his plastic potty with us when we were cycling.

From just crying and lying in bed, to crawling to learning how to walk to cycling. All this they learned in a few years.

The kids suddenly come to you with a surprise! A drawing! Their very first drawing. How cute is that to see their very first drawing and it's a face! I am not sure who they were drawing, was that me? Or their imaginary creature?

My two kids play with each other and fight with each other. That's how it goes with everyone. They both now can read very good and they get more independent the older they get. It is nice to see the kids growing and learning new things. When I do something, I try to involve them. So I definitely don't feel that my life is over. I was never as happy as I am now. My kids make me happy and they put a smile on my face. Wherever I go, they go with me. I just can't be a day without them. I am not sure how it will be when they are becoming teenagers. I hope they don't mind that I want to join them :-D.

Do you have kids and do you feel your life is over? Or maybe you don't have kids and never want to have one?