There are many things that go unspoken during life, that list is long and vast but death is towards the top. There are also many layers of death and each type is felt differently by each person in proximity to the death. There is an echo effect that ripples outward from a death and a birth.

Losing anyone is hard at some point, yes a child is unlike any other loss. There is no way to prepare for that type of loss. Nothing that can be said after to ease the tear felt in one's existence. No way to ever forget. It is the one time I truly thought that there may be some type of needed continued existence of lobotomy experiments, to master the selective removal of certain memories.

My heart goes out to those you speak of.