We do not know the answer. God may use the disappearance in a beautiful way to glorify Him. Then again we have suffered great losses when one disappears. I think of my late girlfriend who died unexpected two years ago. A very great loss as I miss her daily - but it made me grow and changed me. I suppose it boils down to where the heart is for both the disappeared and the one left behind. As I see much value in your writing and feel your heart...I would miss you and feel my life would not be as enriched. Blessings. @tarazkp