Pictures from our late summer wedding

in #life5 years ago

We're married!

I haven't done much serious work or posted on Steemit in two weeks because I've been so busy planning my wedding and reception. My husband (it feels so weird to say husband!) Matt and I were married on Saturday, 3 September, in Tennessee.

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my engagement ring and band

I met Matt (aka @complexring) in Colorado in 2013 while we were both pursuing graduate studies in math. Dating and falling in love were not on my mind at the time and I wasn't expecting this to happen. We first spoke at a SIAM conference where I was volunteering at the registration desk and he needed to sign in. The next mathematician who came to the desk to check in was a woman with kids, and Matt somehow got involved in an animated conversation with the kids about vegetarianism.

After going out with a group of graduate students a few times, Matt and I finally went on our first actual date at a Thai restaurant.

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a portait I drew of Matt in 2014

We discussed marriage while I was visiting Matt's family for the 2014 holidays. I "officially" asked Matt in May of 2015 at the Great Wall of China, and then he bought me a ring!

Rehearsal

The wedding party met at the church to rehearse the ceremony with the priest on Friday night, then had dinner in one of the church halls.

Wedding tip #1: Ask family and friends to help with things instead of hiring professionals.

One thing you can do to save money on a wedding is cater the rehearsal dinner yourself or have someone close to you do it. Matt's father actually is a caterer and he was kind enough to prepare our rehearsal dinner for free, which saved us time and money.

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me with one of my bridesmaids on Friday night

Wedding tip #2: The stress is real for brides.

People seemed to be exaggerating about how stressed out I would be before and during the wedding. I thought "I know how to live in the present and don't need everything to be perfect, so why would I freak out?"

I was completely wrong. Beginning Friday afternoon, I started experiencing full-blown panic about getting everything done in time! I even got a stress-induced nosebleed, which I didn't know was possible. If you're planning your own wedding, I highly recommend getting enough sleep on the nights leading up to the event and being aware of the potential for stress.

Wedding

On Saturday morning, I had my hair done in a crown braid with fresh flowers and had my talented sisters do my makeup (see Tip #1).

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with one of my sisters at the salon

We enjoyed mimosas and croissants at the salon, then drove to the church to dress and take pictures before the wedding. I was fine with family members taking the photos (again, see Tip #1) as long as they didn't feel like it was too much pressure. The photos turned out beautifully!

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pre-wedding photo session

Matt and I chose the venue to ensure that our families were happy and the wedding was aesthetically pleasing. I wanted to mention something spiritual and not focus on law and the state, but otherwise didn't care about the format.

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making our vows

We hired a harpist for the parts of the music we could decide on: the entrance, Communion and Offertory, and recessional. She was reasonably priced and did an excellent job, and the acoustics in the church were perfect!

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Ellen, the harpist

We had time for another photo session after the ceremony, so we took more family pictures with the priest and some artsy ones outside on the church grounds.

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me, Matt, and the girls

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the entire wedding party

Reception

We held a reception right after the wedding outside on our property. There were about 85 guests. As long as the weather cooperated, I preferred renting a white tent and being outdoors to renting a hall. It was a gorgeous day, sunny with no rain and slightly chillier than usual!

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me celebrating!

I had a lot of help from my family with making and setting up the decorations and setting up the tables. Without them, things would not have gotten done, or we would've had to spend a lot more money.

My father brought some home brewed beer, which was very popular among our guests, and my mother and I provided wine. Everything else was professionally catered. We had a string quartet during hors d'oeuvres and dinner, then played music through my father's speakers with a generator for the rest of the time.

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the string quartet

Wedding tip #3: Don't skimp on things you really care about.

I desperately wanted good food, classical music, and some kind of outdoor party, and I'm glad I arranged to have those things. The reception was everything I'd hoped for and the guests gave a lot of compliments.

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my mother set up a photo booth with costumes

Wedding tip #4: It's better not to get wasted during your own reception.

Maybe this is an obvious one but I feel like it's worth mentioning. I'm glad Matt and I didn't get shitfaced or otherwise incapacitated during the party. Through moderation, we were able to act like a host and hostess and still have fun, and at the end of the night we left for a romantic getaway close to the Smoky Mountains. We didn't have to arrange for anyone to drive us there.

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"Just Married" decals

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CONGRATS @edgeland & @complexring!

Matt thinks I should have included this picture of the bridesmaids fawning all over him, lol.
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And here's the one with me and the guys.
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Haha amazing pictures! I wish you both a lot of happiness and beautiful years together!

Belated congratulations!

Congratulations! Love the harpist and the ceremony looked great :0)

Thank you! The harpist did great. :)

Wow That is absolutely beautiful <3

Congrats! Lovely pictures and I actually really like your drawing. I'm an illustrator so it stood out to me :)

Thank you! That means a lot coming from an illustrator. I used to draw a bit as a kid but quit for a while. I guess Matt's appearance inspired me to draw again. ;) I'll check out your work if you've posted it!

Lovely post, so touching :D
All the best wishes to your family!

Thank you so much. :D

Congratulations!!!!

Thank you! I kind of want to relive the experience, but without the stress part. It was so beautiful though! :D

Congratulations! Your photos are stunning and you all look so happy. I wish you nothing but the very best for your future!

Thank you @onetree! :D. I appreciate the good wishes.

Congratulations! You look so beautiful and so very happy in your pictures! I wish you, your husband and family the very best for the future! :)

Thanks so much for the compliment and wishes @ladyclair! :D

It is real steeply, I wish to you and the best, main health and long love

Congratulations:)

Congratulations to you and Matt!!!

It looks like your special day went well. Thanks for sharing the descriptions and pictures with us. Best wishes now and in the future!

Thank you! It did go really well. :)

a post is original, all is steep, to mutual and long love)))

Best wishes! I live in Tennessee as well

Thanks! What part of Tennessee?

I live North of Nashville

Oh, ok. Cool!

@farmerswife, we're West of Knoxville, near Oak Ridge National Lab.

Congratulations to both you and @complexring on the big day, you make a truly stunning happy couple.

Congratulations!

Congratulations :)

Thank you! :-)

Congratulations! Your pictures are beautiful.

I made my husband and his groomsmen wear pink ties too!

Really? Lol.

Yeah he was a good sport :) pink ties, pink bridesmaid dresses, pink flowers, pink napkins at the reception... I have a pink problem

Congratulation!.. absolutely beautiful :)
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