Brother your life story started out heart breaking. You determine your future though. You determine if you fight, argue and have a poisonous home. You determine if your son is going to be in your life on a daily basis. You need to patch thing up, you need to say that your past is not a crutch and will not determine your future.

Get off your fucking ass and go fix this! Sorry, but I needed to emphasis my passion I am feeling for your situation.

Once you fix things at home you need to reach out to her parents. Maybe they will turn you away but you are a man and you tried to do the right thing. This also may break a decade long problem and let the healing begin.

Life has kicked your ass for too long. Stand up and say enough. Tomorrow is a new day and what happens has not been determined.

Good luck brother!