Different Skeletons Same Closet

dray91eu (60)in #life • 7 years ago

As a man, one of the things i dreaded most in my life is living with one woman for the rest of my life. Have not tried it but i just get scared how that is going to work, something i suspect affecting most women too. Each time i read about divorce, i feel like i know what went wrong.

I have been pondering on it a whole lot as i grew older i see marriage as the next complex phase of life- just like solving some advance linear algebra.

Many years of secrets, decades of some private lives that could never be questioned and double that; that is how i view a man and a woman coming together to live under the same roof and surprisingly some did stay for 50 years or more and some- just a couple of weeks after being proclaimed Husband and Wife.

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This made me not question the morality of spouses co-habitating without proper marriage because they both know that there are deeper darker sides of them which they do not want to b exposed as a marriage is a life sentence so sooner or later; the inner monsters of either the wife or the husband will manifest.

Now looking at some if the traits been found in marriages:

WIFE/ HUSBAND BEATERS
Study has revealed that most abusive spouse; husband or wife had shown the tendency of bullying earlier in their lives, so the remanisfestation is imminent. Some, a few developed this habits along the line due to the other parties unchanging and never ending ways of live, therefore they develop a defensive mechanism. This is a very critical facts for most domestic Violence infested homes.

BOREDOM
The moment one spends almost every waking moment and sleeping moment with just a single person everyday of ones life, this particular situation may seems to be cool and boring at the same time, with time you may possibly get sick and bored of the partner. In most cases, partners often gets tired of one another and once this sets in, it is not something that is really easy to beat and overcome.

INLAWS

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Your nosy mom, tough brother, or playful younger sister all of this are people you may have gotten use to while growing up, but what about you new marriage partner? In-laws cab initiate some very serious issues in your relationship. It may be easy on your own side tolerating hers or his but it may not be that easy for you to see him/her having similar issues with yours.

HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES
You might encounter issues when house works are been shared in the sense that the man may want to be the laundry man for the home while the woman does the kitchen works... It may be cool and nice for a while, but what happens when extras are included, like when the kids starts coming forth.

INFIDELITY

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Scientifically, it has been proven that some habits could be transferred to offspring, a fact many spouse might not know nor take serious. When jealousy and suspense of your partners movements creeps in then you want to get back at him or her so you went out on date with another man or woman. Extramarital affair had just been ignited, but most couples never know its in their DNA but it was suppressed looking for a catalyst to activate it. Not that i am making a case for the unfaithful husband and wife but this are secrets that lies together in bed for many years

These reasons and many more are the key points that should be addressed before trying to determine who one chooses to share the rest of ones life with in marriage as the same roof will/may be shared for the better parts of ones life with such a partner .

Thanks to ma Big bro @oluwoleolaide for inspiring this post