ME before all of YOU... or rather YOU before all of ME...

There is opposition in all things and well it is just how life is.

Life can be really horrible at times. We go through really tough times and struggle a lot, crying out for help but with no answer...

In a similar way we experience life, what it has to offer everyday to every person. Everyone has hard times some more than others and life has a funny way of kicking you even harder when you are already down.

Now also, life as we know, can be super amazing, provide us with so many wonderful things and opportunities.

Growing up

This doesn't mean getting older. Not all people that are older are wiser, some are even still childish or react to certain things in a childish manner.

Problems that are faced by that person can do 2 things to them, both could be considered negative, but one can be seen as positive.

First, it can scare or destroy them as a person making them withdraw from reality and leaving them empty.

Second, it can develop a more mature person and a stronger person. How the second can be seen negatively is it can rob a persons childhood fun.

In general Africa and the children that grow up here are forced through these 2 things. Both negatively impact them as they have to become adults at a much younger age

Poverty

Well there is 2 ways in looking at this as well. Some are born into poverty or circumstances lead to it.

Either way poverty is a state of a person and not the state of what they might have. I have seen people experiencing poverty and I believe that some it is self inflicted on them.

Some of the happiest people live in poverty and if you think about it they are actually really rich. Few people find true happiness in life. They try their best everyday to make the best of everyday. To try provide a better future for themselves and for those around them.

Others, no matter how hard you try to help them, they will never get out of this state. Once poverty has become the state of mind in a person. The only way they can change is them to change themselves.

You can give this person everything, you can give them a job, if that person doesn't want to help themselves you won't be able to help them either.

Jealousy

We are all people. We all are humans and are similar to one another. When someone has more than another person, in whatever way it might be, the natural thing to do is get jealous.

Isn't there a better way? Instead of having this jealousy and anger or even greed ,for this other persons success, can't we just try to be like them and applaud them for their success.

Jealousy can consume you into a state where anything someone does, even if it is helping others, you look at it negatively and find fault in it.

In conclusion

You might be wondering why my heading isn't related to anything I have spoken about so far?
Well when going through life and hard times or even good times what do we thing of? ourselves or others? When we face problems who do we turn to or blame? ourselves or others?

Do we ever stop to consider another person? Do you change they way you do things to help someone else out? Do you change yourself for the benefit of another person? Do you help someone out even though you need help yourself?

When we do things is it for our own gain or for someone else? Are you the only important person in your life?

What would the world be like if everyone just lived and did things for themselves? Or what would it be like if everyone lived for each other?

What do you leave behind when you are gone?