We all dream for success in our favourite fields. But the problem is, some people only dream about success and use excuses when it comes to practical life and specially when it comes to show what they got. Success is correlated with talent, confidence and patience.

Some of them think that success is just a matter of days or weeks. They start to work on what they are dreaming but after 3-4 weeks, they say "Huh, I got nothing from my efforts" and then they start to make some ridiculous excuses like I don't have the talent or I am not just lucky or if you go to correct their mistakes, they reply "I can't change myself, I am who I am".

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But let me tell you something today, those excuses are unseen barriers to your success. If you want to become something, then do not "dream" it. Come on man, you're supposed to "make it happen". Only losers rely on dreams. Winners are only those who start putting efforts and move forward with patience and make it happen.

Lets look on 3 excuses in-depth, and in case if you're a victim of making such excuses too, then I will also indicate what to do to get rid of such excuses.

1- I Can't Change Myself - I Am Who I Am

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When your friends point out your mistakes that you are doing something wrong, and they indicate your weakness which are found within yourself, then you might probably reply: "I can't change myself, I am who I am". That's at-least what I can expect from majority of people.

Majority of people have self-pride within themselves and they consider themselves as best and think that no one can do any unique thing than them, and yet we see that they make horrible mistakes, get the most kicks on their back continuously and when we go and explain what is wrong with them, they start to get mad on us and reply in rude manners "I can't change, I am who I am, you just want to see me down because you're jealous"

I would like to clear my point, I am talking about majority. I believe that there are lot of good people who do not believe in self-pride and they understand that human often do mistakes but let me point out one more thing! mistakes are expected by human and we all do mistakes but they become errors when we justify those mistakes with some non-sense logics.

Such attitude is a barrier towards success. A person should keep an open mind, and should embrace criticism because criticism is what helps to understand what we are doing wrong. If a person think that he is perfect, then he might never be able to become a better and successful person.

Basically, the sentence "I can't change, I am what I am" is often delivered in two senses. One person might say this sentence in sad mood because he experienced something really bad and can't figure out what to do. And another person might say this sentence in self-pride.

For those who experienced some bad times, then know that every problem has a solution. You know what? you can change yourself, and it is just a matter of few days or weeks (or might take longer depending on how much change you need within yourself). You just need to sit alone for an hour, contemplate on few things and ask your loyal friends about yourself that do they see anything bad in you or not. And if you contemplated enough, and still going through hard-time, then know that you don't need to change. You just need to continue to fight with the time because hard times come to every person.

The success depends on how high you bounce when you hit bottom. Hard times help you to understand what kind of person you are. If you're successful (or wanna be successful) then you will never give up and you will always stay optimist and hopeful for good upcoming time.

What to do?

• Accept constructive criticism.
• Analyse your actions and measure your mistakes.
• Do not be upset with your past, be prepared for today and future.
• If you've a close and loyal friend or even a family member, then ask for critics.

"Be patient, work hard and consistently, have faith in your writing, and don't be afraid to listen to constructive criticism" - Jonathan Galassi

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2- I am not as lucky as them

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Some of you might have used this excuse already, and it often happens when some of your friends become successful in business and you say, "I am just not as lucky as them". You're doing few big mistakes which you might not even be aware of.

First mistake, you are under-estimating the efforts of your friend who just became successful because you just think that its all connected with luck. Let me question you about your mindset, do you think that money will come from the sky for you? like rain? I don't know what will your friend think if he hear that sentence from you that "you're lucky, I'm not as lucky as you".

Second mistake is your belief and misconception. It is true that your success depends on your luck but do you know what is in your luck? Did you read your luck somewhere? No one knows the future in this world. As a human, our duty is to strive, do hard-work with some smartness and take steps forward and stay patiently for the result. Success will come your way for sure because hard-work always bears fruit.

Such excuses are barrior towards your success. Believe me, you can become a great person of the world, you just need to drop such an attitude. Such attitude can never lead towards success. If your friend became successful in something, then go congratulate him, then see him as your inspiration and start your hard-work. That's how success comes.

What to do?

• Make a plan
• Stay dedicated
• Make someone your inspiration
• Keep working on your plan with patience

"We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort." - Jesse Owens

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3- I don't have the talent for it

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So, you're a youtube addictive, browsed many videos of successful businessmen, and you continuously saying to yourself "I just don't have the talent for it"? If yes then continue reading below.

First of all, let me clear a common misconception about talent. Some people think that talent is some kind of ready-made thing which a person get from the day of birth or in the womb of mother which should start working immediately. But that's partially true. Talent is natural. Every person is talented to some thing but the key is in finding your talent. A person have to dig, explore and find the talent which is found within himself. You need to search for talent which comes with time and efforts you put into something which catches your interest because most often than not, most people have talent on their favorite fields only.

If you're keep complaining and excusing that "I just don't have the talent" then let me ask you, have you ever tried to master in any specific field you have interest in? and if you tried, then for how long? because if you have done everything properly then it is impossible to not get your talent explored, because guess what? every person is talented for sure. The work is to explore it and bring it outside.

What to do?

• Select a field which you could enjoy working in, choose from any of your hobby.
• Affirm yourself that you will be successful with time.
• Affirmation is not enough. Continuous hard-work is required.
• Develop "Never Give Up" attitude within yourself.

"Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn" - Harriet Beecher Stowe

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Those were 3 common excuses used by some people, and even I witnessed such excuses among my friends, corrected them and fortunately they accept crictism just like you did today. If you're not one of such excusers, then please have a cup of sweet coffee and enjoy because you have some great things to accomplish in near future.

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