That companion called ANGER
When last did you lose the grip of your emotions?
How was it after the event had passed?
Although some people get angry easily, others do get angry once in a while, maybe after they are pushed to to wall. Some others, it is after finding out they just have to put up a show to absorb themselves of some negative treatment they get from people maybe as a result of their silent/reserved nature.
Of all that's been said, anger needs to be managed. Most times, we do things beyond repair when we are angry and this tends to affect our emotions especially when it navigates to hatred and resentments.Even the good book didn't say you should not get angry but says you should not dwell on your anger. The best at all moment is for you to express your anger when it comes in a rather non destructive way because if it is destructive, it will affect both parties.
So I found the image below quite helpful in dealing with anger
Source
I hope you put it to test when next it creeps in
So, before you get so furious and cause a lot of damage beyond repairs, look deep into yourself. Imagine how you would look after the episode is over. Imagine what would have happened after the smoke has found it's way out of you and do some damage control.
i can really relate to this. i rarely get angry cos when i do, i regret my actions.
One thing that helps me is that i create excuses fot the person hurting me. I just assume that the person doesn't know what he/she is doing, cos it will hurt more if i feel the person is in his right senses.
Anothet i do when i get angry is dat i try to let go as soon as possible, cos it id easier to forgive when it hasn't turned to resentment.
People say most males forgive easier than the female folk, it may ne true but individuals can make thr difference.
All this said isn't easy at all, dats y i rely on His GRACE and urge you to do same.
Nice post
Upvoted
The excuse part really do strike a chord.
Yeah... When u are arguing with someone that is "stupid" and you are not supposed to be stupid but you are replying in a way that might suggest you to be stupid, then another person can infer that you are both stupid. So, best thing, assume the other party is stupid and you will snap out of the anger... In some other cases, i assume the other party is going through what I am not going through and that's responsible for the rather unfortunate behaviour. Many assumptions like that. What I do then is just state my point, then leave d matter.
See why i once said we think alike. Feigning an excuse for people's action is what i do a lot.
Yeah and u were not wrong when u said it...lol
I must say this is a nice post for the moment @dorth.
Anger is a part of our existence. As long as we are alive, one way or another, something or someone will just get us angry.
However, it is our handling of anger that really matters. If we can't avoid it, we must learn to control it.
If not well handled, anger could lead to resentment, bitterness, hatred, even murder.
But no one will help you in controlling anger. Everyone of us has the responsibility to control our anger.
Lastly, everyone has responsibility also to thread with caution and sensitivity in relating with their neighbours especially in a multi cultural, multi lingual and multi religious setting.
We must strive to live in peace and harmony regardless of our differences. We must handle all differences with maturity and understanding. That way, we can foster peaceful cohabitation in our communities.
Yes to peaceful coexistence!!! #POTUS #USA #NORTHKOREA #CN
Very well said bro. Thanks for stopping by.
Thanks Dorth
Anger is small madness. The rule is not to get angry, but while angry, do nothing :)
That's right, need to look at yourself more often!
That's the real deal. Assume the other party has an issue for behaving in such manner that got you angry.
Anger can be destructive, and at the same time can appreciated when directed towards achieving goals.
Well said. Some people won't take you serious until you show them a other part of you.
Lol, it won't be "anger " anymore when it's directed towards something positive , I would rather call it determination or passion then.
I hate to lose grip of my emotions especially losing it to anger, I feel sad afterwards and wonder if I really know myself. Nice article
Exactly my point here. This is why what I do is to state my point and snap out of it. Resentment tears my heart apart and affects my mood so I don't hold on to it.
Be angry but sin not has helped me, don't hold anger for long, it hurt and affects also
True
Really great anger management tips.
Quite useful. But then sometimes, trying to fight and control that sudden explosion and outburst can be quite difficult.
Leave the outburst, it must come. You can't hold it in forever, just make sure there is a damage control in place
Lolz.......like Dorth vs Hugo?
Glad you guys squashed it as quickly as it arose.
You this man! Do u
you have to state the obviois?
I remember when getting angry used to lead me to keeping malice since I am not so much of an anger outburst person but I later learnt to actually let that outburst and get on without any trace of malice left. Nice article deserves my 99% upvote. ;)
Oh Malice! I can't do that. It hurts me a lot so I prefer to just make up immediately. Unless of cause you prove to be too difficult.
Agreed!