Managing Relationships
Relationships can be in different forms. It can be friendship, brotherly, family or between people of opposite sexes. Each of these relationships I mentioned has its own problems but I would like to focus on one particular one which is that between a boy and a girl.
Most people, especially guys date a girl just to get something from her and not because they have genuine feelings for her. Whatever you do will one way or the other come back to hit you, its not wicked, its just karma
It might not necessarily be you; it may be your children. Relationships nowadays don’t even last, some just date for few months and then it’s over. But let’s not confine it to dating alone, even married couples have relationship problem which leads to either separation or divorce.
Separation
Separation is when both couple while still having a subsisting marriage live apart i.e they are no more cohabiting but where they have children they still share the responsibility in taking care of those children. By this time it’s either the love between them is dyeing or they are not just sure of themselves or if they actually still have anything. Most children you see are either living with their mum or with their dad or they shuffle between the two parents. I have a friend in this category who shuffles between his parents.
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DIVORCE
This is a legal way of saying one is no more interested in the relationship with the said partner and wants to officially end the relationship. Marriage is like a contract and like a contract it can only come to an end when both parties come to an agreement. A lot of children come from broken homes and that’s why they have some particular behavior which we don’t term as normal or why they can’t relate well in certain situations.
Marriage has been said to be “till death do us part” but in modern times now it is not so and it’s not usually death that ends a marriage.
A bad wife or a bad husband is easy to live with but a bad in-law or bad in-laws are not easy to live with. So whosoever you pick you need to do a thorough background check before you go into such family.
How do you manage your relationship?
Understanding: lack of understanding is one of the causes or break ups or broken marriages. Most couples are not patient to understand the other person’s character or behaviors. I heard a saying once that when your marrying someone you are marrying all of their problem’s and therefore it is important to understand the person your marrying well before you finally tie the knot.
Accept your faults: always accept your fault and never try to prove your right in every situation. Even if the other party is wrong, just say sorry and accept what has happened as your fault to save any extra problems. I was once told a story of how a man and his wife lived together for soo long and it seemed like they never ever fought or argued once. When he was asked how he did it, he just said he took everything as his fault, accepted all blames and never stressed any argument with his wife. He would just apologize so that peace could reign.
Take it one step at a time: never be in haste when in a relationship, take it slow and steady. Try to understand what your partner wants and doesn’t want and when he/she wants it and doesn’t want it.
Pray: prayer is the master key. There is no place where prayer doesn’t work always put God first in your relationship and In everything that you do.
In conclusion, relationship isn’t a do or die affair but it is important to know what you’re getting into before you finally or eventually get into it. Always be faithful and honest to your partner. Relationships work when both parties communicate well with each other and are loyal to one another.