Showing Compassion
Compassion is the ability to understand where someone else is coming from. It involves, at least temporarily, releasing yourself from your own perspective, so you can see things from an outside perspective. Be it another person, an animal, or even something considered inanimate — like the Earth.
Compassion is recognition of anything beyond the self. We must acknowledge that it is present, and accept it as valid in its own right. Even if we disagree with it.
There are many different ways to show compassion for others; the important thing is that it comes from your heart. Ignore differences and find common grounds to help you relate to what someone else is going through. Whether you’re interacting with a friend, colleague, peer, patient, or family member, here are some ways you can demonstrate your compassion.
- Start with Yourself.
The best way to learn how to be compassionate toward others is to be compassionate with yourself. Praise yourself for your successes (even things as little as making your bed in the morning) and forgive yourself for your mistakes. Focus on your strengths and positive qualities.
Show compassion towards yourself--you are a constant work in progress. And in doing so, you will find your ability to love yourself, and the depth of your love for others, grow all the more as you feel less of the need to hold back from them. Most love is conditional, and it depends on what we receive in return for the love we give. But what happens when we no longer need to receive anything in return from others in order to love them?
- Communicate Verbally and Non-verbally.
Make eye contact, keep your body turned toward the person speaking, and listen quietly ask open-ended questions to send the message that you’re ready to hear more.
- Touch (if appropriate).
A gentle touch goes a long way. To be sure touch is welcome, ask first. Try “Would you like a hug?” or “May I touch your shoulder?” Gentle touch assists in balancing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
- Encourage Others.
Some positive words of encouragement can help shift focus . Did you know Praise works better than criticism? And Words can have a powerful impact on the mindset.
- Be considerate and thoughtful.
Compassion is a skill we can all practice. But it does not mean becoming a chameleon and not showing anyone your true colors. Be true to yourself and what makes your personality unique. Treat others the way you want to be treated. And know that no matter how compassionate you are to others, the favor may not be returned. And your best efforts may go unnoticed. Don’t let this phase you. Be compassionate to yourself as well as others and you will begin to attract more of the like into your life.