Well, you EITHER tell people what they want to hear OR what they need to hear, usually in the case of the former it will be a form of criticism. In regards to wishing people the worst, as the philosopher Marcus Aurelius stated "Nothing happens to anybody which he is not fitted by nature to bear." i wont expand on what is meant by that, however i will say this; the tragedy today lies in a life led absent of difficulty to overcome. But hey that's just, like, my opinion man.