ALWAYS Remember

Today, well yesterday was a hard day for the family. 3 years ago our life was turned upside down. Our daughter Freya was born into this world in the early morning hours...only to pass 10 minutes later. She was a fighter. That little girl did all she could to breathe, to stay with us, but it wasn't meant to be. As she was born and laid on my wife, even though we knew she wouldn't be with us long, we made the most of it. We held her close, we told her over and over and over again how much we loved her. We gave her kisses and snuggles. Even though she wasn't going to be a part of this world long, we wanted to show this little miracle love. We wanted to make sure that when she went to heaven she would be able to ALWAYS look down at us and know that not a second goes by that we don't miss her, that we don't think of her. Just because she isn't physically here with us, she is FOREVER in our hearts. A child is the greatest gift in the world to a family and we wanted to do nothing less than show her the appreication and the love she deserved. A parent should never have to bury their child, but we had to. A parent should never have to tell their child goodbye, but we had to.

Her sacrifice will never go unnoticed by my wife or I. For, because of her sacrifice, we found out the issue that prevented her from staying with us. We and our doctors knew what had to be done in the future to prevent this from happening again. Because of her, Freya's little sister, Niyah was able to be born, healthy and full of life. Now 2, Niyah doesn't quite understand who Freya is, or why today at the cemetery, mommy and daddy were in tears. But she sensed and seen our unhappiness and our sadness thinking of the loss of her big sister and feeling her hug us and give us kisses made it all better. Hugging her and feeling her little hand pat me on the back and her say "awwww baby" in her tiny little voice took some of the hurt, some of the sting away.

To all those parents and families that have lost a child, I am deeply sorry for that and I know EXACTLY what you are going through. It is not something I wish on any person, no matter my disdain for them. I wish you and your families nothing but comfort and prayers, whether the loss was a day ago or 100 years ago.

To those that are thinking about growing and expanding a family, ALWAYS remember that pregnancy is not 100% guaranteed safe. That there is a chance something can go wrong. I hope that you don't have to go through what I along with so many have, but it can happen. I'm not trying to scare you, just make you aware that life has a funny way of throwing hard to hit curve balls when you least expect it.

To my beautiful baby girl in heaven, I say HAPPY BIRTHDAY FREYA and I feel you looking in on us every day. Mommy and Daddy miss you so much and we will be forever grateful for your sacrifice and we will NEVER FORGET YOU and will ALWAYS remember you.