HOW TO SOLVE PROBLEMS IN RELATIONSHIPS.... #ISSUE 2

So far so good, I have decided to run a program in which i basically focus on decisions that pertain to relationship goals...
This is is the second issue so far apart from the sample "HOW TO KEEP PEACE WITH RELATIVES"
SO STRAIGHT UP

As you and your mate start your life together, various problems will arise. They may result from differences in how each of you thinks, feels, and approaches life. Or problems may come from outside sources and unexpected events. It can be tempting to avoid reality, but i advice we strongly face our problems.

1 DISCUSS THE PROBLEM
Make sure that you spend time talking about the problem. Honestly let your mate know how you feel and what you think on the subject. Always “speak truth” with your mate. Even when strong emotions are involved, resist the urge to fight. A calm answer can keep what should be a simple discussion from escalating into a battle. Even if you disagree, remain gracious, never forgetting to show love and respect to your mate. Try to resolve the issue as soon as possible, and do not stop communicating.
WHAT YOU CAN DO:
Set an appropriate time to discuss the problem
When it is your turn to listen, resist the urge to interrupt. You will get your turn to speak.

2 LISTEN AND UNDERSTAND
Have tender affection for one another. In showing honor to one another, take the lead. How you listen is very important. Try to understand your mate’s point of view with “fellow feeling . . . and humility.” Do not just pretend to listen. When possible, put aside what you are doing and give your mate your full attention, or ask if you can discuss this later. If you think of your soulmate as your teammate rather than your opponent, you will “not be quick to take offense."

WHAT YOU CAN DO:
Keep listening with an open mind, even if what you are hearing displeases you
Listen for the message behind the words. Notice your mate’s body language and tone of voice.

3 FOLLOW THROUGH
There is benefit in every kind of hard work, but mere talk leads to want. Agreeing on a good solution is not enough. You need to follow through on what you both decide. This may involve hard work and much effort, but it will be worth it. If you work together as a team, you will “have a good reward” for your hard work
WHAT YOU CAN DO:
Decide what practical steps you will each take to solve your problem
From time to time, evaluate your progress.

                        TACKLE PROBLEMS TOGETHER

By working together, you can ensure that your relationship will be strong and happy rather than weak and miserable. Look to the future, and do not bring up past problems. When you cooperate with each other and apply this principles, you can handle any problem successfully.

THEN FINALLY,

ASK YOURSELF . . .
What is the most urgent problem that I want to discuss with my mate?
What can I do to understand how my mate really feels about the problem?

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