Trying To Be Stevie Wonder To The Bullshit
Hey my fellow Jestastised
I'm glad I managed to get a hold of you, I know how busy your schedules are so I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to read my latest rant. I don't know about ya'll but try to avoid drama like the plague. I value my solitude so if you're going to start up with me it's pretty much an easy choice on what I'm going to do.
My safe space
I really am trying to rid my life negativity and toxic people which of course isn't always the case. Even Superman had a fortress of solitude, even Batman has the Batcave. Why do you think that is? Because they need to get away from the BS!
From my personal experience its always been wasted energy to try and reason with people. Once they've been contaminated with drama, you might as well call it quits, they're dead to you now. Say a pray for them and move on.
You're not special
I know your mom and dad told you, you're so damn special and you can do anything you set your mind to...as long as its being a lawyer, accountant, doctor or some bullshit job that's perceived as stable. Well you're not, we're all expendable and most people really only keep you around for the benefits, they will extract until they cannot anymore and move on.
If you want to play host to a leech, by all means, enjoy the codependency that's your choice. But if you walk away you will soon realise you'll be replaced without much thought, so don't get too caught up in it really.
I get very few texts these days but when I do it's either to ask for a favour, money, advice, information or some sort of ass wiping request. Can no one wipe their own ass these days? Seriously?
Don't look back, better yet forget how to look back!
I know people shouldn't be beyond redemption but if they really valued you and wanted to keep you in their lives, if you were really that important they would put the time and effort in. I mean they took the time to push you away.
I also realise that it may come with regret or you may feel unfulfilled trust me you're getting off lightly. If they owed you something, still had something of yours, let it go. You just won freedom from drama and that is worth any cost in my opinion.
Have your say
How do you deal with drama?
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So have at it my Jessies! If you don't have something to comment, simply comment "I am a Jessie."
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Hello @@@chekohler,
Toxic people are better left in their toxicity!
From my little experiment, I learnt that they tend to behave better around you when they know that you are capable of being toxic (to them) but choose otherwise.
Warm regards to @crypto.piotr for sharing!
Agreed! You don’t do them or yourself favours getting caught up in that spiral of toxicity and negativity
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@chekohler. Tu post es un escrito agradable, precisas en una forma simpática la necesidad de alejarse de las personas que no nos convienen. Y me place informarte que Yo no soy Jessie, jajajaja. Tengo opinión propia y me considero con derecho a expresarla.
Que tengas un buen día.
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@chekohler Your post is a pleasant writing, precise in a nice way the need to get away from people who do not suit us.
And I'm happy to inform you that I'm not Jessie, hahahaha. I have my own opinion and I consider myself entitled to express it.
You have a good day.
Oooh getting my first bilingual comment, very cool! Thanks for stopping by and have a great day too!
I'm tired of toxic people. Because they upset my nerves. Now, after meeting these people, I try to ignore them.
Of course, if this doesn't apply to work, or people close to you, then we have to make the sacrifice of hearing them and trying to help them.
In order to succeed, tasks must be set that go beyond their objectives.
If you are forced to deal with toxic people make sure its in small doses so they don't get to you, as soon as you feel you're being affected and not level headed you should step back. Think of yourself and the goal you trying to achieve, if they are needed you have no choice but sometimes you may even find unique ways around them like they are simply obstacles, sometimes you can turn them around other times you have to go around them. But don't focus you're energies on just trying to get them to move or think the way you do, its unfortunate but the way it is I suppose
I love how responsive you are @chekohler
ps. your profile says that you're digital marketer. In crypto industry ? Just curious
yours
Piotr
Thanks for promoting my post, I've never ever had this much engagement. It was a lot of fun. No im a digital marketer in general, so any industry really, I'm just about how to get sites more qualified traffic thats all
Do you use telegram by any chance @chekohler?
I would like to learn more about your services. There is a huge chance that I would be part of some upcoming STO from Switzerland and i may try to get you in touch with that business in the future. Nothing certain, that's just an idea.
Cheers,
Piotr
Yes I do have telegram, would be happy to add you and discuss options when you’re ready! You still have my gmail so send me your contact details there
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Lovely. I just emailed you.
Hello @chekohler!
It's a lonely world if you stay away from all people. How will you know if they are toxic or not? People have needs and will look for where to satisfy them. It is obvious that everyone only cares about their own problems. Otherwise, there would be no world hunger, no war, no pollution, etc.
If you think about it, we love drama, otherwise, there wouldn't be so many movies, books, and plays telling dramatic situations.
There's a character I remember when a toxic person approaches me.
Thanks for sharing
I'm not saying you should be completely isolated but be selective of who you engage with, it doesn't take long for you to realise if someones going to relate to you on certain levels if you are both completely honest and if they not you can move on.
I agree we love drama it gives us something to do and talk about, its a way to keep the brain active in a passive state. No one actually wants to think about things and themselves so these descriptions help keep your thoughts on a surface level because many people don't want to deep dive into who they are or lack thereof.
I agreed with you
When it comes to internet DRAMA I make tokens about it! That's how I deal with it. :)
!dramatoken
Maybe this will be the only one you ever earn. :)
Why thank you, I think a single bit of drama is all I'll ever need.
As long as I am not in the "Drama", I must admit that on occasion I enjoy watching other peoples drama. Why? Simple it reminds me why I never want to be in one, and I can stop watching the drama when I want to.
I hold a lot of hope out for the children being born today and over the next few years, they are going to possible be the first ones to grow into a new kind of society. Society has pretty much run it's course, just as the early man and family expanded and became a clan, then a tribe then a village, then a town, then a city, then a state, then a country.
Along each step of the way attitudes changed and society was born, during each of those changes above society grew and help the progress of change along. Now change is helping society progress to it's next level, people are relearning that yes the wants needs and desires of the one are just as valid as the wants needs and desires of the many. balance is in the process of being restored in my limited view.
I don't look to find other peoples drama, its hardly entertaining to me but if I happen to be in a place to witness it by all means sometimes it can be pretty entertaining and like you said a good reminder of why you don't involve yourself in it. Drama is more often than not petty so why even bother, your energies should be focused on constructive and meaningful activities.
A lot of people insight drama out of boredom or to create a quandary for themselves as an excuse to not progress out of fear of the unknown. Rather stifle your growth than grow.
I too hope the next generations learn from our silly mistakes even just a few more than this generation.
How do I deal with drama? Ignore it and leave it. We are all selfish and we all think about ourselves even if we deny it. We use people or need people for our own sake. Our level of patience and caring and kindness and tolerance and such differs from person to another. I only have a handful of people I care about because they have been "tried and tested" to be called real friends. I guess it is true what the golden rule says.
A very critical analysis but also pretty much on point I think the majority of people I run into have that kind of mindset and its unfortunate. I agree that they convince themselves that it is how it should be or that they right for the way they react. Very little introspection, everyone looks outward and not inward because if they did they would not like what they see.
I like that "tried and tested" I feel people should be put through the ringer, loyalty and trust is not given its earned
One thing more, more and more people have that self-entitlement and are only seeking affirmation and approval. If you don't agree, they will not like you. They won't listen to others' opinions.
A great read people should just mind their own business and avoid interfering with the lives of other, spreading negativity is the worst. I'll try to be more positive around others.
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Yeah like I get sometimes drama can come at unwanted times but if you actively look to create or find drama and spread negativity im sorry I don't feel sorry for you. I'll just be there minding my own business and trying to enjoy my time here. I'm not here on earth for a long time im here for a good time