If you put out a thought be prepared for an opinion
Hey My J's,
It's me back again for your daily dose of random thought for the day and today's post is all about how people handle discourse. I'm not sure how people view their social media accounts but since you're making use a free public platform certain things come with the territory.
When you put an idea out into the world, you're looking to socialite a response and because you're mass broadcasting your message it's going to resonate with people who support or oppose your position.
Social media ideas are snowflake ideas
The problem I've seen is that since social media aims to breed echo chambers and people are looking for positive reinforcement on their ideologies when an opposite view has proposed the merit of the idea or position is immediately thrown out the window and a polarised argument is often started.
People have lost the ability for healthy debate and see opposing messages as a combative approach with malicious intent. Those who provide opposing views are often dismissed as "haters" which I feel is dangerous.
When you simply dismiss an opinion because of the delivery, your misinterpretation or your feelings towards the person who provides the opinion you effectively shut down discourse.
Ideas on social media are swayed by the mob, not by merit
When sharing your idea on social media your idea gains traction not because of how great your articualte it but your percieved value in your social circle or influence in terms of followers. This allows people to effectively shout the loudest and drown out ideas instead of taking the time to explore ideas it's all about shutting up the opposing view.
A wise man gets more from his enemies than a fool does from his friends
I consider myself a raconteur and I'm open to healthy debate and It saddens me that we cannot have open discussions about topics on a platform that allows us to take our ideas globally. We are often submitted to inherent biases influenced by our geographical location, upbringing, culture, education and access to information.
Putting your ideas out in the open helps free it from the dogma that these influences can present and bring you new insights and ideas.
Have your say
Are you open to a healthy debate? Do you enjoy having your ideas challenged? How do we foster a healthy debate?
Holla at me in the comments! All my commenters I will now refer to as Jessie. Jessie is a good friend of mine, but Jessies got a girl and I want to make her mine.
So have at it my Jessies! If you don't have something to comment, simply comment "I am a Jessie"
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Agreed! The echo chamber that occurs is deafening. One thing I have noticed though is that there lacks to be a way to be able to have the dialogue. Instead of saying you disagree, state why in a concise manner, they often revert to insults and name calling. Then there’s a back and forth hate and then it spirals from there. I’ve had plenty of discussions on comment threads with people and they don’t know how to respond properly because I don’t run at them with swears and vitriol. Others just block me and few have engaged me.
To admit though, I have on occasion fell victim to the name calling but only when triggered lol
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Lol I think people also realise they are in a public space so they feel obliged to defend their stance as if you were calling out someone on the playground.
Very few online conversations arguments go anywhere, it's basically a race between to legless people it doesn't matter who wins you both don't have a foot to stand on.
I used to troll quite a bit in the early days before it was a thing and then I thought it was a waste these people dont even value it in any case and I moved on. Now I just post rubbish on here and pretend to be smart
This is bullshit! Jessie told me to tell you that...
Actually, I wrote something along the same lines in a comment yesterday, but guess what? It was the only comment ignored.. Why u ask? Jess will tell u, because it challenged the intent of the post which was to whine about how unfair it is that "low quality" posts get rewards here. So basically I said you're unhappy because u find the incentives here unfair.. Boo hoo! Of course I wasnt such a dickhead about It but now that I've been ignored I'm thinking about being a dick lol...
Was that a tangent? I believe it was. The point was, I agree if u put stuff out there u can expect an equal and opposite reaction. You can focus only on what is on alignment with your views but then why not just keep it to yourself. Unless if course your position is so weak you thrive on the pandering... OK I shouldn't comment while I'm busy, but I did so there..
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Lol Jessies know they can speak freely and not have to worry, this is an unsafe space have at it!
Ah that’s an age old complaint the post reward thing I also had my gripes with it when I started but I thought about it and I was like ok sure the narrative that got me here was making money but it’s not what kept me here! We will always have a healthy churn of money grabbers here
Sometimes no reaction is the biggest reaction they can give! Lol I’ve been ignored and ghosted a plenty in my life time doesn’t mean my message didn’t resonate with that person
Indeed if you’re looking for strictly positive affirmation why not keep it to your instant messaging friend groups instead of a public forum!
Being a dick can be pretty tempting especially when you’re dealing with arseholes and pussies but sometimes it’s better to holster that bad boy and save it for someone special
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Very well said my friend
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So trueeee "people are looking for positive reinforcement on their ideologies when an opposite view has proposed the merit of the idea or position is immediately thrown out the window and a polarised argument is often started."
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Lol, are you just agreeing with me to reaffirm my position in my little echo chamber? @aliciasteyn quit trolling lol, I want arguments! Glad someone finds my reasoning rational
Hahhaha yes I was worried about your ego so I just agreed 😋
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Lol thank you so much for the ego boost, I really appreciate the fact that someone could see through my cryptic cry for help 😊
In most cases you could agree with a person in some aspects of the thoughts, but there is almost no way you can be in agreement in all aspects of their thoughts, so you have to accept that there are other opinions and aspects....and EVEN (shudder) that you may be wrong or misunderstood.
Marriage is a perfect example of different types of people coexisting without being in each others 'back pockets'.
I disagree with the person I love most often....sometimes its rough, other times its just that, a disagreement....so what.
Agreed, lol you could never fully understand where someone is coming from we can't read minds and communication is not perfect. Misunderstandings will always happen but its how we handle it that counts, are our minds open and can we remain civil, can we empathise?
I'm sure its going to be rough especially when emotions are running high, not saying its easy
I don't like arguing. But a good debate is great.
What really caught me clicking on your post was the cartoon. I just had to laugh.
And the other thing: A wise man gets more from his enemies than a fool!
A wise man is subtle how he gets info without his enemy knowing he has been fleeced!
Indeed a good debate can be therapeutic and good for the soul, having your ideas challenged and opening up to new possibilities is healthy.
LOL the picture makes me giggle too, glad you liked it.
Oh indeed, I find that if you do not voice your opinion first often times they hand their information off to you so you end up in an advantageous position.
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Dear @chekohler
Again great read. I'm just wondering how true is that sentence:
My impression is that people never really had that ability in the first place. Either it's internet or real life - it's same story everywhere. Hardly anyone I ever met was a good listener. Majority of humans want to "talk", not to listen.
And debate without listening skills is never any good.
Interesting sentence. Never heard that before. Thx again for your post. Enjoyed reading it.
Cheers
Piotr
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