Amen! I hate it when parents and grandparents use the children as pawns in a game of one upmanship. The older generations (WW1, Depression era, and WW2) all had their weirdness. Some came through relatively unscathed. I recall my own father and grandmother at logger heads with me in the middle. They also tried to control me long after I was married and raising children. Didn't work. They also tried control from the grave via will's that dictated what I could and could not do. That was an abysmal failure.