One of my best friends in high school, a female, I'm male, had a mother who did a really bad job of picking mates. She stayed with one guy who was physically and mentally abusive for over two years. It takes a lot to break out of that cycle. nobody could convince her that something was wrong. I'm not a psychologist, but it's my belief that everyone has to hit their rock bottom before they make change. Everyone's rock bottom is different, one friend of min OD'd on heroin, that was his rock bottom. Another friend missed one of his kid's sports game because he was at the bar. That was his rock bottom, he hasn't drank since. We find our low, then we crawl out. That's our human nature. Our job on the sidelines of others lives is to help show them that the bottom Is getting close. We can only be warning signs on the road of life. Best of luck my friend.

Caveman