That is very true the biggest problem is miscommunication. War is really brutal people lose mothers,fathers, sons and daughters. War is a bloody river and if people could just stop to communicate then just maybe the world would be a better place. Indeed I believe you can't expect to change the world if you are not willing to start with yourself. We should be grateful because we got up this morning and if every person could just contribute we can make a difference. I wish people could just understand each other better but people don't take the time, people focus too much on the problem instead of finding solutions. You are welcome, you know it is not easy but your brother needs you, it is so important to be there because time waits for no one, and when you lose that time you can never get it back. Only by loss do you realize you should have been there. Being supportive is the best thing you could do. I am so sorry that your mom passed away, dealing with that is extremely hard and those wounds never heal. Never have hatred in your heart it only poisons your own heart and you end up losing yourself, honestly it is not worth it...It is hard to take the first step but you should never feel obligated or pressured, let it be on your own time when you are ready. Acceptance is the first step to being able to move forward, but it will come :-) It is an honor to meet you and thank you for sharing your story with me. You are a very strong person and I honestly respect you, I have no idea what it's like to not have a mom anymore but she would want you to be happy and I am pretty sure she is proud of the person you are today.