Signs you are a bad friend

in #life5 years ago

Have you ever wondered if you were a bad friend? If maybe you could improve yourself to be a better friend. I am going to give you a few examples of what makes a bad friend. keep in mind this isnt a complete list but it should get you started in becoming a better friend. 

1. you are projecting your negative qualities to your friends

We have all had that one friend that loves to gossip about other people. We forget that some people dont like to gossip and we should respect that. Don't forget that over time people will get tired of hearing the gossip and eventually pull away from you.

2. blaming a criticizing others instead of being accountable 

you truly believe that nothing is your fault and you are always right. instead of encouraging them you tell them they are always wrong and they cant do anything right.This is very hurtful for people and should be avoided. We must remember people have feelings and if we dont respect their feelings we wont have them as a friend for very long. 

3.  Using your friend only when you need them 

I have experienced this in my own life. if you are only talking to someone when you need help or advice you can almost guarantee they will stop answering you or their immediate question is "what do you want?". Dont be a user because its not cool and more importantly it makes you look really bad. 

4. Avoiding responsibility 

If you agree to share responsibilities with a friend then do it. Dont just sit there and let them do all the work while you watch. It is better that you dont commit to anything if you cant be responsible. Rember your word is the only thing in life that you truly have and the only thing you will have after you die. 

5. You dont consider their feelings

Remember words do matter and your words can actually hurt people worse than any knife could do. Stop for a moment and actually think about what you are going to say and determine if that could hurt your friend. We sometimes dont even notice when were hurting someone but the good news we can improve that with a little effort.

6. Dont be a show off 

Do you have that one friend that tells you they do it better than you can? If you are like that you should stop immediately. while it may be funny at first I can promise you that it wont be very funny for long. Instead you should encourage and support your friend. 

7. You dont listen to your friends. 

Their opinions dont matter to you and all you think about is when will they be done so you can talk about what matters to you. This is very toxic in a friendship because a friend should go both ways. If you want them to listen to you then you should return the same favor. 

8. You never stick to your word.

As i said earlier your word is your bond. if you say that you are going to do something then do it. otherwise people wont believe you or feel like they cant rely on you. Its also about mutual respect. Remember the are taking time out of their day for you and you should do the same for them. 

I hope this helps at least some of you. leave a comment about what you feel is a bad friend. I would love to read your feedback Oh and remember to ALWAYS be kind to others as it is so important in life.



My philosophy of life has been to treat others how I expect to be treated.

Always be kind to others. I do agree with that. :)

Hello, gheghenrv from Kryptonia.

You become a bad friend if how your friend treated you too.

Yes, we have to choose our friends wisely, the one with good influence to us not the bad ones.
Thank you for sharing.

My kryptonia id @rosemaritess

Nice post, Nothing matter if you wont help them when they need you. @Dhaneshpk

sometimes their are people fun of using your goodness. I love making friends at all! Kryptonia @reatimtim

Am always a good friend not a bad [email protected]

Checking on the signs you have listed, i considered my self as a good friend. I always see to it that i wont hurt my friends. Upvoted, commented by rubelynmacion of krypto

Good advice :-)

kryptonia id is @gracealone
A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Prov.18:24

It is written in the Bible that, "Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you" (Analects 15:23)
That's the "Golden Rule"

that's right!
upvote for u from kryptonia @ziggy

Very interesting post, keep it up. Kryptonia id @chetachi26

Excellent advice @bojakcates

Staying true to yourself you must be able to be true with friends and family.

A fool has to say something. A wise person has something to say - African Proverb

Thanks for sharing. I started folowing u, would appreciate if u follow back.

Your post is wonderful, always so interesting. Kryptonia id is @grace234

Bad friends destroy our faith, but good friends build it. 😉😊

Great words and my Kryptonia account is @ianstevenson

you must stay true to yourself first and foremost... and show a sign of truthfulness to ya loved ones including ya friends from kryptonia @everdope

Hmm! Anyways I've got my own weaknesses, I'll try and make amendment. Upvote from kryptonia @jacobzeema

Golden rule: "Do unto others what you want others do unto you." So, if we want to have a good friend, be one! We should initiate to do good. 😊😊
Kryptonia ID is @gingbabida.

what we give that we receive

Napoleon said that "True friends are those who know each other on the battlefield" A true friend is one who is willing to fight by your side, to carry you in your wounds and to celebrate you in your victories. And dogs are also the best friends because always, they will always be there wagging their tail. from Kryptonia @ juancarlos2906. PD: Very thoughtful your post mate, I follow you.

Friends will probably let you down, but Jesus is always there for you in a way you can trust. upvote Kryptonia DeathlyHorror

Very good and reflective post @bojakcates. Kryptonia Id is floridagypsy.

Respect..! nice blog

Krytonia : @lynzhan

So we have to choose friends wisely. From krypt @gemskie

As I always says.. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.. The best thing you can do is just be good to them. Even they dont deserve it. One of my friend always reminds me. "dont return evil doing to the person who hurt you ". BTW nice article.. Keep it up :)

Nice article...
kryptonia ID is reyneilsay

kryptonia @hokkaido

Thank you for sharing. .We have to choose wisely whom we want to consider as friend..

Kryptonia @rosemaritess

all valid points. nice post !


Just be good to everyone and everyone will starts to love you.

I believe I am a good friend:) I can be friend to any but I choose whom to get close to :)
Kryptonia ID @wilsonblue5

I dont need many friends I olny need few real ones....thats my principle

kryptonia ID @psychkrhoz

is it bad if i found myself 8/8? :)))jk

Nice post, I always try to be a good friend to people.

-Robhimself from Kryptonia

Thanks. From Kryptonia @jemacris01

I struggle with no.5 sometimes. Chr7is from Kryptonia

Its a nice point of view


We all have that bad friend that no matter how toxic they are we keep them because of nostalgia or that something just happened that made them like that.

We still hope that they can be the friend we knew them to be before.

Yet for user friendly kind of friends we should drop them haha

From Kryptonia with the same name.

I like this post interesting

\show me your friend, and I will show you your character.

Great article @kimaben from kryptonia

kryptonia id @duquejunalyn great article thanks for sharing

nice article, a real good friend always support.


@eliurii Сan agree with almost everything)

Interesting post, kryptonia id @ofili2

I dont joke with my relationship with people.....its good to be good...
Kryptonia @bitcoinpaul

You are Write good content but I suggest you use images in your post, I talk about creative commons or made by you after your content looking awesome and get well rewarded i am from

Kryptonia ID: @KantZone.

True friends always makes world beautiful! Kryptonia id @joyce86

Using your friend only when you need them

A lot of my so called friends onlycall me if they need me. Thats why I only have few but true friends.
-Kryptonia: itsjessamae

I have not really had any friends to speak of since I travel and don't often stay in touch. The people I call friends now are Thai and we don't even speak the some language. But somehow we get along fine. They most definitely do more for me than I do for them :)

I'm coming to you from @kryptonia with the same user name.

Nice post kryptonia @shella

Always remember don't do unto othere if ypu don want other's do unto you be a good bad kind of friend so life may be full of joy,happiness and fun :)

Number 1. I ended my friendship with one lady because she just loves to gossip. I don't like that. Now, I'm happier and more peaceful.
Kryptonia id @abrahamcera

I think it is a much better idea to make a list of what makes a good friend. It might be more fun to think of all the positives and good qualities you see in friends. If you build it, they will come! I hope everybody out their feels loved and remember the most important friend you have is yourself. the only friend that can actually make you feel anything about these friends we all have! i hope this lands with kindness to any and all reading!
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