HEY MEG, check the url of your video. You can fix it so that it actually lets it auto-play. And put the thumbnail up above the video, at the very top of the article to make Steemit pick it up instead of the video's thumbnail (even if it's the same thumbnail, Steemit somehow only picks up part of it which is why sometimes when people only submit links you see black bars which fuck with aesthetics).
THANK YOU :)