Keeping Up Conversations

There are people that we strike conversation with and it just flows with little to no effort but there are also times when we try striking conversations with people and it just doesn't work out so well. Even with efforts to keep it going sometimes, awkwardness can still be felt and perceived in the air and that sure isn't a sign of a good conversation.

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For those conversations that don't seem to flow or flourish well, we try “cracking” our brains to come up with questions to keep it going and there are times we even end up asking questions we already have asked, probably in a different way and that only adds to the awkwardness. Sometimes we come up with funny stuff just to get rid of the awkwardness but sometimes, the laughter that follows might seem awkward too. Crazy, isn't it?

Well, at the end we tend to blame ourselves for not being so smart or for being terrible with handling conversations, forgetting that there were moments that we've had great conversations with people.

I am a terrible conversationist or at least, I used to be until I figured that I wasn't as terrible as I had thought. I know, conversations aren't the strength of most introverts and I so happen to be one and that's why I always will put in a bit of effort just to break out of my “shell” but sometimes, it really is a lot of effort.

Whenever I had to go out and probably meet new people, or even people I know, I would sit back for a while and come up with questions or ideas to spice up conversations or at least keep them going at different scenarios. Because the awkward atmosphere that comes by when interacting isn't always the most comfortable.

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Truth is, I figured that wasn't working too well for me either, it seemed forced and for some reason, the “effort” I was putting made it feel so unnatural (at least from my end)

Conversations are amazing! I mean, they are one part of our lives that we just can't choose to live without even if we feel we want to. Well, blocking it out of our lives will be limiting ourselves to a great extent. Great innovations have been made by the simple act of conversation, and great change to has been realized thanks to it. If we shut conversation out, we limit what we can do together.

What I have found to have worked for me over the course of time is; trying to know a little bit about person I am interacting with, find a common ground on a particular topic I figured they could find interesting, explore it with them, let my personality shine through and also give them space to let theirs shine.

What I have realized is that, because I seem to have the “weight” of not being so good with conversations on my shoulders and also trying to be on guard all the time so I don't appear boring, I often find myself putting a whole lot of unnecessary effort into doing the whole talking, which tends to remove the focus from the other party (or parties) and that sure isn't a conversation.

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We don't need to have the same ideas, values or even beliefs with people before we strike a conversation with them. In fact, when we truly wanna grow, we should open our minds to having healthy conversations with people whose beliefs, ideas or even lifestyles conflict ours. It lets us see life through their own eyes and open our mind to something we probably had no idea about. Like I said, it's all about finding a common ground.
People with different values, thoughts, and ideas from yours are actually the best to converse with.

Conversation is a two-way thing and there are times that even with our willingness to spontaneously interact with others and learn a thing or two from them, the other party just isn't as interested. That's why I believe that it is important for one to stay present in a conversation, not just so you could take in and digest every bit of it but so that you know when the other person isn't so into it and choose to quit the talk. Because it's healthier that way…

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Whether it's online or offline, conversations are important and the ability to interact with people, learn from them, teach them a few things and also get entertained is just amazing, you don't have to be the conversation starter just in case you feel you are not so good with that, (even though it won't hurt to practice😉). Don't miss out on this blessing so go out there and have fun interacting and don't forget to send out love through these conversations because that makes a great difference!!😊

Much Love — Audrey❤