Recently, I have been meeting people who I happen to have forgotten of or my memory of them have become a bit rusty and with each encounter, I realize how often I tend to not imprint people's image in my brain or how easy I forget people or
Forgetting who people are might seem normal to most of us but I have always boasted of the fact that I always remember people's faces or people's names once I see them. It has actually proved to be so, until recently and I wonder why it just decides to happen all at once. Oh well!!
So, as I walked down the street, I saw this guy smiling at me (a little bit too broad for just any random guy), I looked back to see if there was someone behind me who he was smiling at but apparently there was none, so, I decided to smile back (I tend to make weird faces when I am walking alone😀 and there is a 70% chance that its people that know me that will talk or smile at me)
Well, as I approached him, I planned on passing by but he called out my name and looked at him in surprise, wondering how he knew me. I stopped and said “Hi” still deep in thought about how he managed to know me, and just when I wanted to ask who he was, he introduced himself.
“I was your junior in secondary school,” he said, No, you must be kidding, how do you expect me to remember you? I thought.
My school was quite big, I mean, SS 3 alone had like 8 different classes (and so also other classes) with about 30 students in each class, I can't even recall all of my classmates not to talk of juniors plus, I didn't hold a post back then in school or had school daughters/school sons, so I had literally nothing (or maybe little) to do with other classes, not to talk of juniors.
It surprised me when he called out my name and I felt really bad and I wanted to literally beat myself up for the fact that I couldn't remember who he was but he remembering who I was and smiling at me from afar probably meant that I was good to him at some point😊 and that felt so good.
One thing with me though, is that even with my “super ability” (okay, not so super) to remember people's faces, I hardly go through the stress to trying to imprint the faces of those “tagged” popular or something of that nature in my head, dunno why. It just happens. Just like the other guy I happened to meet.
If you are the “life of the party”, or your name happens to be on everyone's lips, I probably might never know how you truly look. And if you are that person that often feels awkward and probably “unnoticed” almost about everywhere, you are sure to grab my attention. Oh, just the "normal" person, really!
So, I walked into the faculty building paying very little attention to my environment, trying to plan a few things in my head. I heard someone call my name and I cheerfully answered and at the same time giving him the “I don't know you look”.
He tried explaining who he was but I was just blank! He had like a tag on him with his name on it but the name somehow turned to the other side (front side at the back) so he turned it around and I was like, “I thought they say that ladies are more visual while….” Okay, I stopped halfway after I realized that it was the other way round! Oh well, such theories aren't for situations like this and besides, I hardly fit into these kinds of theories. But if I can't remember your face, it will be really hard for me to remember your name...
He did some more explanation and gave me a nickname he was well known with and, the name rang a bell! I sure have heard this name, well, more than once. He was well known back then, in the neighborhood, I grew up, our parents were friends but we never were because I thought he was full of himself. Well, he seemed quite different when this time…
So, few days later, I met him again and this time, I needed something and he gladly helped.
I think it's normal that we may often times come across people that we have forgotten about but we're once a part of our lives (or maybe not really “apart” but we've come across each other at a point) and really, we don't have to beat ourselves up for not remembering them, we can't keep a tab of everyone we have made contact within our lives.
It may feel awkward to run into someone who happens to know you but you've totally forgotten them or never even got to know them but it's all fine, really. The thing is, we might never get to fully remember every single person that you come across in this life and that's fine!
I was amazed at how these guys warmed up to me even though I have totally forgotten about them (the other, I am not even sure I really knew him). I really do wonder if I can easily warm up to people who happen to have forgotten me and have no idea who I am…
But I guess there shouldn't be any hard feelings, we are only human! If you can reconnect after recalling who the person is, it's totally cool and if not, its still cool
Much Love — Audrey❤
I've had the same thing happen many, many times. There was one guy who always treated me as a super close friend, and I never really knew why, until he once mentioned that we had met at a rock concert way way waaaaaaay back in the day. I had completely forgotten our encounter. When he realized this.. he seemed rather hurt. I felt bad about that, and eventually I was able to recall that there was some guy at that concert who had been a lot of fun, and that must have been him. I hate that I hurt his feelings, but when you're brain-damaged and having trouble learning new patterns and forming long term memories, it's just something that kinda happens.
In another encounter... I once friended somebody on Facebook who I had known back in college. Two days later I got a friend-request from somebody else who I had never even heard of... I accepted, and the next thing I know, she is messaging me saying how happy she was to see me again, after all these years, and what had I been up to?
I had absolutely no clue who she was, or how I knew her... But I didn't say that.. I just played along because brain-damage, right? And I eventually come to learn that she was head-over-heels in love with me for YEARS... and never mentioned it. I was kinda bummed, because while she was pining away in a corner praying for me to miraculously notice her, I was horribly lonely, my heart shattered by an abuser, and desperately in need of love myself. We could have saved each other, if she had only said Hello...
So that's my experience with this phenomenon... It weird, its awkward, and life goes on... =)
You had issues with your brain at some point? That is really so sad...
I totally get why that guy was mad, I mean, you guys had mad fun together but I am sure he understood after a bit of explanation...
And that lady... Yeah! If only she said hi, you both would have felt whole, hearts healed and happy! I guess she wasn't too sure if that was the best thing to do... You know, ladies...
You've had a ton of experiences with this part of life, really...
Yes. I was frequently battered as a child, and the nonstop strikes to my head caused damage to my brain. It's the same thing as happens to boxers or footballers that get knocked in the head too many times, except I was a little boy.
It makes me sad sometimes, because there is no cure, and life is alot harder than it should have been... But it's not the end of the world. I'm still here, and I love me, and that's what matters most. 💛
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That's a really tough one,and yeah, life isn't getting any easier at all. I feel really sad that you had to go all through that as a child.
But am glad that you still are here, happy and still positive about the future...❤🤗
🙂🤗😍
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@audreybits the cartoon drawings are wonderful. How much time do you spend making those?
Thank you! I won't say I made them myself (well, not for the most part, lol. I am not that tech savvy). There is this app called bitmoji, you could get it on playstore or even on iPhone. You just need to take a selfies, tweak the face the way you want it, review little details and the app will help with the rest...
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... you're posing next to the poop emoji. I can't get over the bow in its hair. Sounds like school is very different where you are. A lot of the terms you're using I haven't a clue about the meaning of. What does it mean that someone is your junior in secondary school?
Yeah, the poop! Lol!! We don't use the high school system here, we use secondary school but they are somewhat thesame, I think... Him being my junior in secondary school means he was a few classes behind me and in most cases gives me a bit of authority over him😉 lol! Crazy!!!
He was in SS1 while I was in SS3. I have no idea how to equate it with the grade system but well, Ss3 is the final class before graduating from secondary school (is it like grade 12?)
I have a friend who doggedly insists that the emoji in question is actually Chocolate, rather than poop. shrug who cares, fun is fun, either way. 😊
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Ahahah. I like the way you write. You're quite funny. 😊
I really am? 😊 Thank you so much....
Hahahahahaha we have all been there.. we tend to forget things and names!!!!!!! 🤣😂
I can relate so much.. people would also wave and say hi to me. While me and my brain are still struggling who the heck he/she was! No matter how much I dig i could find no memory at all! Hahahahahahaha.. its really weird sometimes.
I guess we have glitches once in awhile. Our brain gets slowed down. Maybe they need a break.
Or maybe we need some memory loss vitamins to keep us from forgetting things and names! Hahahahahaha we do have one like it is called memory gold plus in tablet forms.. hehehe i just dont know if that really works.
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I doubt that stuff works... Lol! That not remembering people stuff just always happens...😀 but i never really thought it would happen to me😆
There is only so much our little heads can do, really...😊
I'm terrible at remembering people sometimes. Or I'll remember the person, but not their name, and they are convinced that means I don't remember them!
I never take offense if people don't remember my name. For some reason, people I remember never seem to forget me, just want to call me Ebony, Mahogany, etc. LOL
Like the other lady I met (which I didn't talk about), I could remember her face but not her name, but I was able to remember her sister's and I sure didn't want to call her using her sister's name so I just said I couldn't remember her. Well, after a bit of whining, she told me her name...
My names are quite hard to remember, really (i use more than one) and I try to understand too if people don't recall it but I guess there are certain people that I feel a tiny bit of hurt when they don't remember me... But again, its just life, we forget and we remember!!!😊
Oh yeah, when people give you nicknames, they hardly ever forget you... Lol! Well, you probably left a lasting impression with them....
haha, I know that! And I used to be so good at remembering people too! Like insanely, I would know people's names that I hadn't even been introduced to, just if I overheard someone saying their name! But that was when I was quite young, like teenage years, when just every person my age (or slightly older!) were interesting! That might explain why that first guy remembered you! (maybe he had a secret crush on you back then ;D)
Then as I got into new schools and environments and met more and more people, there wasn't space anymore to remember everyone, and now I am as blank as everyone when I meet someone I don't know very well or can't remember!
Hahahah! A crush on me? I doubt, if that was it then he probably could have forgotten it. Or maybe not... Lol!
Its crazy, right? There are just way too many people for us to remember... Lol
HAHAHA that illustration with the dodo ...
I'm the worst when it comes to remembering people. It happens so often but I try to play it off " yeah yeah, how you been", the when they are gone my wife would say " You have no idea who that is, right?" I told my brain it better start remembering, I forgot a lot of important things sometimes and remember the things that need not be remembered....
But the one time it happened to me I was crushed!!! So I guess that's why I started pretending I remember. Bad habit maybe but eventually I can recall:)
Always a cute interesting write from you:)
It really is hard to keep tab of all the people we come across but sometimes, I really do feel like kicking myself on the butt because there are times that I forget people who just shouldn't be forgotten... Hahahah! We should call it "old age", even though I am everything but old...😊😊😂😀
HAHAHH you are from old though ( I think)
I feel we need to do more affirmations ( I remember , I remember)
Hahahahah! Old? Well, maybe i am..... No wonder i just can't fit it with everything new...😂😂😂😀