Be grateful as much as possible, so you know how to be calm in patience and sincerity
Keep on being nice! Whatever Allah has ordained to you, especially in His unkind determination. Because even the unpleasant things happen to God's plan for your good.
Because, indeed, there is no provision of God to his servant that does not contain goodness, then no matter how unpleasant the incident will be, you should still be grateful.
There is no need to grumble too much for the bad things that happened to you, because as bad as anything it will eventually lead you to goodness. Be grateful as much as possible, so you know how to be calm in patience and sincerity.
Because everything God has ordained for you is in accordance with your goodness, then be patient!
And it's okay if your heart sometimes hurts, but make sure that pain doesn't bring you to a nature that is hated by God.
Grieving may be fine for you, but make sure your sadness does not make you turn away from God. Because not a few of us because of the lack of acceptance of the bad things that happened, instead he arbitrarily condemned the blessings of Allah which he had received for free.
Keep in mind! God is just, then when God's bad story is set for you, don't you ever feel that you are not being tried. Precisely because God is very fair to, why does He want to test you with unpleasant events, because God wants you to be closer to Him.
Believe God loves you, because that's why He tests you with unpleasant stories. Because God's purpose is actually good, namely that you know how to get close to Him with full patience and full of confidence.