Steps for any change

There is always a choice

No matter how bad the situation is, you can always make a change of life by following the steps below. If you have read my previous entry you can notice that these are the same steps that I took there:

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Honest self-evaluation

As you could see in my previous entry, I was able to no longer lie to myself and kill my ego doing a self-evaluation of my life.

Obviusly I was not happy or fulfilled, there were many areas of my life screaming for help. It was time to reflect. How?

Writing

Writing has the wonderful ability to make tangible everything that is happening in your mind, to put order, to shape thoughts. I had the feeling that something was wrong in my daily life, but it was something unknown, intangible. So I could not fix it or mitigate it. 

You cannot solve a problem if you're not conscious about it. When you put it on paper, you are able to master it in a certain way. Think about this for a moment:

Solve the following multiplication by head, no paper, no calculator, no nothing: 

1987X138 =?

Unless you are one of those enlightened people who live in the world of numbers, it is damn complicated, isn't it? However, if I tell you to do it with paper and pen, the situation changes a lot.

This is really applicable to everything. Writing is a method that will allow you to clarify the vortex of thoughts that often develops inside of our head.

Focus on the solution and not the problem

Reality is a matter of focus. If you focus too much on the problem, you will be strengthening it. You will lose energy and resources that you might be using to work on the solution. 

The result will be that it will overwhelm you and you will avoid to deal with the problem making it even more serious. You have to kill the monster when it is small, so 95% of attention and energy should be in the solution, 5% in the problem. That is basically the moment you realize about the problem, you start immediately working on how to solve it.

Decision and action

Once you've seen the problem and focused on the solution, it's time to decide and act. 

This is the big difference, many think, but few do

This was my mistake for a long time, thinking, thinking, thinking and living in my parallel reality. The only way to enjoy life and to improve is by doing. Trying new things, experimenting, seeing what works and what does not (And not what could work) and above all failing, failing a lot.

That's all for me. Try this for something you can change, I'm going to see how it goes;)