Life put into perspective.

We all have problems right? well for the last few weeks I have felt like mine have been getting worse, I have some big problems that I can't and couldn't seem to get my head around until last night.

We moved house to get away from a situation that was making me and my little family unhappy, my dreaded mother-in law was hitting my youngest daughter and punishing my oldest daughter for talking to us about it.

My wife however seem to think that it was still ok to see her mum after these events and my oldest daughter felt like mummy was taking sides with her mum.

A couple of weeks ago Christmas cards came through the post addressed to the kids, these were sent by the inn-laws and this broke my oldest child's heart as she doesn't want anything to do with her.

She told me one day as I was driving her home from school with tears in her eyes that she didn't ever want to see her nanny ever again after what she had done to her and her sister, she went on to tell me that she felt like she had opened her mouth and told us about what had been going on and now she felt like she was getting punished for her words.

She explained to me, why was mummy still taking her sister to her nannies house as that is were the danger zone was. she said that they all wasn't safe even if mummy was there too.

I had already talked to my wife about this, I had also phoned social services to get advice about what to do, they told me that we should have little to no contact with this women as she is clearly off her head.

The reason why we moved in the first place was because the mother-in law had done what she had done, then to top it off she blames me for everything.

My father-inn law phoned my wife up just after last christmas to talk to her about building bridges, he went on to say she had a choice to make and they wanted to be in her life and see the kids. when he put the phone down he didn't hang up and me and my wife could hear everything they were saying to each other.

The conversation went from bad to worse for me, they talked about my oldest been banned from their house as she was to blame, they were going to send her a text to say she wasn't welcome any more, this is two grown ups talking about sending a child a text basically telling her to f*ck off.

They then went on to say that my wife, their daughter was a waist of space and they didn't think anything of her, my wifes mouth opened with shock, then the kicker that happened for me was they talked about having me killed and putting my body under their extension to their house that they are having built.

These things have been on my mind, as you can tell from this they are pretty big for me and they are always in the back of my head.

So back to my daughter and the journey home, she went on to tell me that she felt like mummy had taken sides with her nanny and that she couldn't trust her and this christmas was a crappy christmas because of hit.

My heart bleed for her as she couldn't explain any better than she already did to me.

When we got home we had to have a talk with my wife to put things on the table so she knew where everybody was at.

She didn't even know she was taking sides and all she wanted was for everybody to be happy, there was some choices she had to make, and my daughter told her that she had to choose either her or her mum.

She didn't even think about it and told my daughter that she would stop talking and seeing her mum as it was upsetting her, she wants a relationship with her and that is all that matters.

Now what I am not telling you is that, the in-laws think they are gangster, they think they can do what they want and get a way with it. I am not worried about them as they haven't got the nut sack to come across here and fight with me, it is just they know people that can make things happen.

I have friends like we all do, I have made some good friends while been out and about doing my little pizza job, they are from iran and afghanistan they are some of the nicest people I have ever met.

they asked me last night, what is wrong? and i told them, they looked at me and said this isn't a problem, I gave a look of WTF, and they went on to say that if you are wanting something to worry about then look at what is happening in their countries, people are getting killed everyday, family friends and children in schools.

This put everything into perspective for me, this is little compared to what these people go through every day. I felt a bit like a twat for thinking that my problems were huge when this is happening.

Luckily I have good friends to talk to hay.

Hope you are all well and merry christmas to all.

@artonmysleeve