5 reasons why a couple fight and how to overcome a quarrel

in #life7 years ago (edited)

Tiredness, stress, financial difficulties and the challenges of everyday life are a tough trial for many couples. Problems, whether they are more complex or easier to solve, are inevitable, sooner or later.
Most of the times, the reasons for which couple partners trigger controversy revolve around money, sex or children.

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Psychotherapists have agreed on the existence of several conflict situations that, once established and understood, can be resolved with little will and openness to the life partner. Here are these:

1. Lack of confidence

Trust is a basic feature that any love relationship has to fulfill in order to function. Problems in this regard arise when one of the partners (both a woman or a man) suspects that half hides certain things or does not give enough force to make things go. In some cases, there is suspicion of a possible extramarital adventure, in which case there is also jealousy.

2. Fights because of the children

Children are an important topic in many couples. The main problems related to them are how are they raised, how parents share their care, or how long they distract you from the couple life. Sleep deprivation, which makes the arrival of a child on the world, irritates everyone. You should expect that, with the advent of the first child, your world will be overwhelmed, so do not happen to be taken by surprise.

3. Fights caused by lack of money

In many couples, money is a real problem, one that is hit daily, pressing and hard to solve.

Any couple are misunderstandings about money, which means that it is normal for your couple to have such controversial discussions. But do not let that turn into a serious problem. Make a budget, compute and resolve the differences.

4. Little time together

Couples often argue because they do not spend enough time together. Sometimes they have misunderstandings and that's what happens when they don't spend time together. Instead of fighting, better sit down and talk about how everyone wants to spend time, what you want to do together and what to do separately. A good relationship is necessary for a balance between time spent together and the time you spend alone, relaxing.

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5. Annoying habits

When you live with someone else, his habits might get out of your mind. What to do? Discuss before small issues turn into some big ones that could become a threat to your relationship and marriage.

My Advice - Learn to communicate effectively

Sex is a sensitive point in many relationships. If you and your partner regularly argue about sex, there is a good chance of being prone to raising emotional walls between you every time this topic appears.

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When you say your point of view, assume your responsibility for what you feel and no longer blame the other for feeling. Communication requires you to listen, first of all - do not interrupt your partner, respect your point of view even if you disagree with it, give it a chance to express yourself. Many conflicts appear because we want more to be listening than to listen, to impose our opinions in the place of the other, to understand the problem also from the point of view of the other person.

Certainly, we are not only right, and if we have the patience to listen to the other, we will better understand what he thinks and feels and we will make an overview of the situation that may be quite different from what we originally had in our mind.

Who is faced with the first step to reconciliation after a fight in the couple? Are you the one who has to let his guard down?

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we should avoid fighting
nice sharing
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I found the best way is to walk away and let the situation defuse.

I agree in 100% upvoted

wonderfully described... i think people can take good knowledge outta this to improve their relationship...

Keep up the amazing work @allesia

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