Adopting new approach to your negative emotions.

alignment (49)in #life • 8 years ago (edited)

Have you ever noticed that the more you resist your negative emotions the more you feel worse?

As human being, emotions have a great part of your experience; they affect you in every situation in your life. How you deal with your emotions determines what you make out of your life. They determine how you communicate with others. They affect your attitude in many situations. And they either allow you to achieve your goals or be a complete failure. Think of moments when feeling good bring the best in you and other moments when bad feelings cost you an opportunity or a friend.

Actually, you are not allowing yourself to feel bad as you believe it is not what you are here for, or simply because you can’t feel bad while others feel good or at least how they seem to you. You might believe that feeling bad will hinder your progress as it prevents you from functioning well in life, or if they are not suppressed they would become more intense and would eventually paralyze you. You also might fear what some of those people around would think of you if these feelings have been exposed?

For all of the above motives you usually tend to reject your negative emotions and fake positive ones. You might not only fake them to others but sometimes to yourself.

Actually, emotions are part of who we are as human beings. Whatever we feel about something that belongs to us, we can’t simply get rid of it. Emotions still part of us even if they feel bad. The more they are rejected the more painful they feel and the more they are prolonged and increase in intensity. When emotions exist for a long period they become part of our identity and we become more occupied with them making it more difficult to let them go. Negative emotions are not meant to be rejected, suppressed, faked or ignored. They are meant to be felt, this is the only way to deal with them.

When you approach your emotions with acceptance the pain added by resistance diminishes leaving a gap of relief around the original negative emotion. Owning and embodiment of the emotions makes you feel more in control, you are no longer affected by them. Allowing them to exist gives you a sense of freedom as they no longer define who you are. With time you become more flexible about your emotions, and they will take less power than they take when rejected giving room to positive emotions to unfold.

Treat your emotions as visitors, allow them to be there and they will take their time and go.

Thank you for reading.

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