No that's not her.

Many years ago as I was in the beginning of my twenties, I dated a model.

She was physically gorgeous to me. 

She appeared on magazine covers and TV commercials.

Many were the times when my friends, both guys and girls alike would come up to me and tell me, "Wow Alden, your girlfriend is gorgeous! You're so lucky!"

I thought I was THE man. I thought I scored a big win.

But unfortunately, that was all she had going on for her: physical beauty.

She pretty much embodied the entire stereotype of a model, you know, somebody physically attractive, but had a horrible personality?

She was disrespectful and mean to customer service staff, something that really got to me because I was in that line back then working part-time. You know what it's like to eat at a restaurant and when your date screams at the manager? It was embarrassing, to say the least.

She was spoiled and demanding, always wanting things her way, and when it didn't go her way, she'd take it out on others or just sulk the entire day.

She blatantly said once that she was of a different "league." I remember telling her that as a boyfriend, I didn't really feel secure about her going out with other guys. Then she got mad saying she was a different league and hence should be allowed to do anything she wanted.

She was even disrespectful to her parents. Know what it's like to stand there while she says, "Fuck you!" to her own dad? It was bizarre.

Heck, she was even disrespectful to my late dad, making insults at him (for no real reason) in the middle of a huge fight.

I kid you not, it was that bad.

You're probably wondering why the hell I dated her, but that's not the point of this story.

Check it.

1) You can become ugly THAT easily

I don't care how beautiful you are on the outside or if you appear on magazines or television...

When you're angry and shouting like a baboon, you're ugly.

When you're always tired and hungover all the time from partying and shit, you're ugly.

When you decide to say, "Fuck you!" angrily to someone, you're ugly.

When you're break down all the damn time when your emotions overwhelm you, you're ugly.

When you're drunk off your mind, misbehaving in public and puking all over the place, you're ugly.

You get the idea.

I've been guilty of it. We all have, but to not be aware of it is another thing altogether. 

If you really want to be beautiful, yes, take care of your looks, then try to be happy, nice and respectful to others. 

If you can't, then please stop taking it out on others and work on yourself instead. Nobody wants to see that shit. 

Near the end of the relationship, she was just this ball of negative energy who made the room toxic whenever she was around.

2) The obsession with looks is just a way to cover up one's insecurities

From what I observed from her, the reason why some models, and even non-models are so obsessed with looking good is simply because they've nothing going on underneath for them.

Passion, various achievements, a tough life as you're growing up but finding a way to become better, challenges in general etc. 

They all go out the window as they focus on looking good only to attract equally superficial people just so they can get the fake validation that they feel they need to cover up their insecurities.

This is when the gossiping starts. And it's a friggin' war zone.

Many were the times she'd gossip, on and off social media with other models about how other models are ugly because somebody gained a little bit of weight or some shit.

3) Some people are so beautiful that that's all they have going on for them, and that's sad

And thus, it's sad because the insecurities would manifest itself anyway.

She showed how weak she truly was when she would simply break down and cry whenever things got too intense for her. 

I don't remember why exactly she'd cry (hysterically) all the time, but it was usually over something inane like someone said something about her behind her back or some shit.

I mean, if you can't stand on your own and be proud of your personal achievements, but instead get wavered all the time because of some tiny little thing instigated by someone else, maybe it's time you start being brutally honest with yourself, reflect clearly and WORK on yourself instead.

My personal take is that a lot of models got spoiled by the industry. Based on their looks alone, they begin to get special treatment in the form of high pay for low working hours and a bunch of free shit (mostly invites to parties with tons of booze.) They're so used to this lifestyle that they start to become entitled and stop doing real, actual work that challenges them.

Ironically, it ultimately works against them.

4) I am sorry guys, but a lot of you need to stop worshipping the ground she walks on

I remember this clear as day.

This one time, a random guy messaged her on Facebook and specifically told her that she was "amazinglu mesmerizing." Then he even said, "Your boyfriend must be a really good person to win your heart."

I was flabbergasted. I had no idea who the fuck he was. I didn't give a shit, but she certainly was very thankful for that first comment.

Guys, please remember this now and forever. In the words of Neil Strauss-

"Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life."

Stop worshipping the ground she walks on.

If you really want to win a girl's heart, she's going to have to respect you. No girl will fall for a guy who's all clingy, needy and constantly giving in to her, especially when he barely knows her.

Read my article again. She could be someone who's not even good enough for you!

So that's what I learnt!

Of course, not all models are like that. 

But as with every culture and group, patterns always arise and some people simply fall through the cracks and stop having personalities of their own.

In short, looks ain't all that.

All relationships need time and effort from both parties as they indulge in deep, meaningful activities based on mutual respect.

If you can't have that, it's just not going to work out. Period.

Peace,

Alden