A Message To My Younger Self

I have seen many articles and videos about a message to your younger self. I think it is always such a good thing to look back, and reflect on how much we have changed over the years. A couple of weeks ago, I celebrated my nineteenth birthday, and it is crazy that this year is my last year of being a teenager, so this little article is some things I wish I knew back when I was in middle school and high school.

One thing that I have learned is that its okay to let go of friends. In the beginning of my freshman year of high school, I had so much friends, and it was such a great thing. But after that year, most of my friends and I went our separate ways. Some went to different schools, but some did reamain. Just like the seasons, people change. I had a friend that I thought I knew how she was, but in the end, I didn’t know anything about her. It was like our whole friendship was a complete lie. It’s sad to think that you knew someone, but it’s for the better. You will get through it, and you will be a better person because of it. Don’t forget about those friends that have been there for you through thick and thin. Those friendships are the ones that I hold near and dear to my heart.

The next thing on the list is boys. Don’t get me wrong, I love boys. It’s kind of funny. When I was younger, I always thought that by the time I was nineteen, I would have a boyfriend, and everything would be roses and butterflies. In the first paragraph, I said that my birthday pasted and I turned nineteen. I have never been in a relationship, I have never kissed a boy, and I have never had a guy interested in me, I don’t think. But it’s fine! I sometimes I feel like some girls think that they need to be in a relationship to feel complete. But girls, you do not need a man to define who you are, or to make you feel complete. You are created in a way that already makes you complete without anyone. For me, I am fine being single. I know so many people that have been in rocky relationships, that ultimately end in catastrophe. I, personally, do not want that. I want a relationship that will last a lifetime, not just a couple of weeks or months. I want so much in a future mate, that I am willing to wait. I am in no rush. I will wait until I find the ultimate happy ending, and I encourage you to do so to.

Another thing on the list, is body image. I know I am not the only one who suffers from this. Body image this such a touchy subject that most girls struggle with. I know for me when I was younger, I struggled immensely with this issue. It took me a long time to start loving myself and my body. I still struggle with it till this day, but I know now that I am beautiful just the way I am.

The last thing on my list, is just to be yourself. When I was younger, I felt like I needed to be a certain way to get along with others. I am somewhat of a shy person, so sometimes it gets hard for me to go up and start a conversation with certain people. I have learned that I shouldn’t be nervous to talk to others because their opinion doesn’t matter. The only thing that should matter, is what you think of yourself. I think that I am strong, and able to do whatever I set my mind to do. I have changed quite drastically since I’ve been thirteen, but change is not something we should fear. Changed should help us grow more into the person we are meant to be.

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