The Generation of lost self.

It seems just by looking around everyone is kind of lost. Statistically, The U.S is the loneliest country in the world. In California alone, there is a 60% divorce rate 10% higher than the national average and those statistics get worse every year.

You can hear it in the music, If you look back at history you have the roaring 20's, up to the '50s then the 60's giving way to a generation of deeper consciousness. In the '80s the music translated as ambivalent because it could be both happy or sad. But no generation has had more melancholic tones than this one. it's in the mainstream and underground.

Apathy and sadness is the general mood of the collective consciousness. Though there are a lot of external factors that contribute to this the main issue is internal. We are the generation of lost self. A generation that has been fed a formula and a box of bandaids. We trip and fall and simply apply an existential bandaid instead of feeling the catalyst of change that is pain. We continue on this path because we have been told there is gold at the end, but even when we get there we feel cheated.

The core of our problems is that we have given away our self-worth to distraction and a fast food method of instant gratification. It's like taking an elevator to the top of the mountain. The fact that you did not climb it yourself cheats you of the value you see at the very top. The view is only half of the triumph. It is in the moments of pain, it's the scars that you find the lessons that propel you to a better you. those moments we give up and cheat ourselves. Thus we never find confidence or any sense of self-worth. This leads to poor relationships and depression. because we never find our value we are constantly looking for it in other people and situations.

At the end of the day, none of those things come close to attaining that sense of freedom you get when you give yourself the patience to take the high road. As a consequence, you can only attract people like you. Broken people, sad people, anxious and depressed people. People who have developed maladaptive behaviors. these people are lost and most people cannot build in the dark. Since this is the majority it is now extraordinary to Have not simply a lasting relationship but an amazing relationship.

You have to ask yourself. Where are you? What are you willing to do for yourself? What's it going to take? 65 years on your face perhaps? Waking up next to someone you've fallen out of love with? maybe a few kids in?

Let yourself feel pain. Great change requires a great catalyst. Pain creates Necessity, Get out of your own way. You do not know better than life and nothing you find in this game we play is a substitute for what you truly need.

The reality is that not everyone gets a happy ending. If you don't fight for yourself no one will. Good luck.

Get to work.