Meaning of attachment for us

I am a novice myself when it comes to relationships. I hate to seek directions and easily get irritated by even mild nudges, so I won’t mind some sort of skepticism or hesitancy in believing whatever I have to say. Two years back I married my high school darling of eight years so I have some sort of understanding regarding romantic relationships. If I had to pick some indicators of a solid relationship I would sum them up like this

Meaning of the term ‘Attachment’
Life is full of beautiful complexities. Couples in romantic bonding shine together amidst the moments filled with fun and joy, like weekends at the bar with close ones or trotting the globe together but at times it’s beneficial to think of gloomy side too. Could you imagine your partner being the oak next to you when you learn a loved one is sick? Would he or she be able to support you emotionally through times of trouble? Ask yourself such question and you may learn something new.

Different types of Attachments
According to attachment theorists, there are four types of attachments in adults. Secure, anxious, dismissive and fearful. These are based on Attachment theory developed in late 20th century based on observation of relationships between children and their parents. We will discuss them later in this article

Romantic Relationship Ideas
We are all intrigued by new ideas of romance in our relationships. Successful couples do try new ideas every now and then to fulfill their desires of adventures and newness.
There are various ideas to keep your relation warm and romantic. From cooking together to romantic bath, rooftop diners to camping sessions in far off locations, watching romantic movies to shopping for each other secretly. Creativity will always help in relationships and such gestures will go long way in melting your partner.

Individuality and Attachment
We all have friends who as soon as find new love partners are totally gaga over them. If they do succeed in getting out of their early bonding feeling for a night out with friends, they end up spending the whole time texting each other.Balance between individuality and attachment is very much for romantic relationships to last. If you are comfortable individually then you have better chances of succeeding together as well.

Physicality and Avoidant attachment
While physical affection is obvious and important for romantic relationships, but this statement goes beyond this. For some this might be teaming up with partners, for some it might be sharing future aspirations and goals. In any case, allowing oneself to be somewhat emotionally accessible and unguarded is a huge thing. While avoidant attachment within couples can reduce closeness and notions of ‘safe zones’ start to break in leading to depression and distance

Romantic Relationship Problems: Life beyond social Media
Lack of communication is seriously detrimental for any relationship and when romance is involved expectations are generally higher so the need for communication and understanding increases. ‘Listening’ is of key essence. If you are able to convey your partner they you are interested in his/her thoughts and his concerns, half of the problems never rise and other half are easily resolved.
Of course you are allowed occasional selfies on Instagram and celebrate anniversary together on Facebook. But the more important thing regarding attachment is that you are spending quality time together while conversing rather than just liking each other’s posts on social media.

Body language and attachment disorders in adults
‘Actions speak louder than words’ is the perfect saying when it comes to romantic relationship problems. Body language and your partner’s ability to learn from your gestures are pivotal in guessing your bondage with your partner. Attachment disorder lead to signs of distrust, anger, irresponsibility and aggression which may not come from the mouth but from the whole body language. Careful assessment of partner’s bodily gestures are always helpful in increasing openness of discussion between partners.

Anxious Attachment and Fear of Past
Nobody is perfect and all of us are tied to our past. Many adults with anxious attachment patterns feel insecure about their past decisions and baggage. This leads to ‘fear of rejection’ which is toxic for romantic relationships as such individuals seek signs of rejections and are in habit of taking pre-emptive actions to avoid rejection. Those who live in past end up losing their futures and most couples neglect this fact.

Romantic long distance relationship
Challenges involved in long distance relationship are enormous. Severe feeling of loneliness and missing your partner are hard to suppress. Engaging in different activities can surely help in neutralizing such anxiety. Dividing up time in to smaller segments of activities is best way in this regard.
Conversations can get long and boring at times especially online. Need for expansion of conversation topics is always needed. Here again creativity will be very helpful. Partners should understand monotony is disastrous at times.
Physicality, which is integral part of romance is missing and you soon realize such shortcomings. Lack of contact can lead to partners experimenting socially. Fear of infidelity can rise if partners start to lose interest. Staying truthful is always helpful. Let your partner know about your needs and desires this can help your partner in adjusting with you surely.

More Weird More Fun
Maybe it’s us, but me and my sweetheart and more weird than most of the couples we know. We spend most of our time talking with each other in make-up accents and often assume as if we are in a reality show and how embarrassing our awkward behaviors would be in such a TV show. In reality, being comfortable with this level of weirdness and accepting it whole heartedly has made our lives together fun and thrilling. We are able to keep each other surprised with our high levels of unexpected gestures and actions. This has been truly full filling. I can’t recommend it enough.

Relationship Advice
There might be other ways to know how smoothly your relationship is sailing but these are some of the few romantic relationship advice I would like to share which I have learnt over the course of my life.