Head Hurt - Try to Understand the Complexity of Everything

"The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those persons who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person - without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other."

No matter how hard I try to understand, I still don't get it. It doesn't help when I was born with a brain that always unconsciously try to understand the complexity of everything, however, the human relationships are so complex that not a single fundamental rule or equation can apply to them. Maybe that's why I fell in love with science, even when things don't work, you can still trace to why. Why do we have to hate, or pretend to "like" someone? There's a thing called the middle ground where you can just stay neutral. Be a Neutron, only convert to positive when there's too much negatives charges that causes instability. With love.