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RE: A jaded 24 year old clinician who feels like an impostor 75% while in my line of work
Agreed completely. You can give them access to tools and hope that they see them for what they are, but yeah, that's my whole issue with falling into the trap of being an empathetic rescuer and thus an enabler to their self-destructive behavior half the time. Don't get me wrong, it's not so cut and dry. There are families that legitimately fall on hard times and work hard to get back to some modicum of health and wellness and stability, but some people... cannot be helped. And that's just a fact in this line of work.
I don't "work" (for a living) in this "Line". I do work with several individuals transitioning out of the "system" of incarceration. 4+ years. Empathy is 'crap', and I don't "Rescue". These people are not drowning, they're "Lost". Lost in a system of "I'm going to help you, it's MY job".
Give them the "hand up" and stop the "Hand Out". It's not "Tough Love". It's - I'm going to stick by you, and not accept your crap, but "yes" I will help you of you want to help too. (and screw you if you don't) ::Horrible, Right::
Don't let being 24 (or any age) dissuade you. Do your best everyday, and never accept responsibility for another's actions. They will disappoint you.
Thank you! I truly feel invigorated after reading this. You know exactly what I am trying to express. I think hand ups are much better than hand outs. I am learning how to not just hold peoples' hands through tough processes but ask them questions that will lead to their own clarity. And it's not as easy as it seems. Not for me anyway. And thank you for telling me not to accept responsibility for another's actions... can't forget something as important as that (though it slips my mind always).