I am not trying to be difficult here, but how is it exploiting someone if they consciously make a decision to sign up for a voting service and select who they want to follow?

Best of luck with Viva, I've known Instructor2121 online only for 2 years. I don't consider him to be a scumbag in any way. Sounds like a really difficult situation for all involved. Sorry about your loss, my flag was small and I appreciate the response.